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Rehearsal invites

Is it absolutely necessary to send formal invites to the rehearsal and dinner, if the only guests invited are in the wedding party? No other family, OOT guests, etc. Including myself, FI, and both sets of parents we are under 30 people (WP + SOs). Just wondering if we can save the $50 on invites and stamps, or if this is a no-no.
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Re: Rehearsal invites

  • We are not sending formal invites to the rehearsal/lunch. We have told the necessary people the date and time. 

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  • I'd say if it's a formal affair then send a formal invitation. Otherwise, I personally wouldn't worry about it. Some people are creating invites and emailing them while others are emailing/texting just so it's in writing to refer back to. If everyone's in town, where you'll be seeing them prior to the rehearsal, you could just print out something simple and hand it to them, so they'd have something to throw on their fridge (I'm a fridge person) - or just a blank "you're invited" pack from a store...birthday party style.

  • We had a formal wedding, but the rehearsal dinner was just word of mouth (or email). Our rehearsal dinner was just our wedding party and their SO and parents. No need for formal invites. 
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  • I know it's not mandatory, but I do like receiving an invitation if I'm being invited to the rehearsal ceremony and dinner. My FI and I have been in about 6 weddings over the past two years and for each one, we've received an invitation for the dinner. Nothing formal or too fancy, just the basic info. I really like having the details in front of me, rather than bugging the bride and groom about what time I need to be somewhere. That's just me though!
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  • We received an evite, which I think is perfectly appropriate.
  • I've received formal invitations, E-vites, word of mouth, and everything in between for rehearsals/rehearsal dinners. I think as long as everyone invited gets the pertinent information, you should be fine. We found really cute July 4th themed invitations on clearance at Walmart a few years ago and ended up using those as our rehearsal invites since they matched the formality and vibe we were going for - plus, we wanted to make sure everyone had the time/date written down since our rehearsal was on the actual holiday and could easily be forgotten.
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  • Where including a card in the invitation suite with a casual RSVP of a phone call/text or email.
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  • I sent an email to everyone invited to the RD (basically just WP members, their SOs and H's sister and her husband).  In the email I provided information about the rehearsal and then also the time and place of the RD.  So nothing super formal.  Everyone still had all the information they needed it just wasn't in a traditional invite format.

  • I didn't, I just let them know via email when and where. Our wedding party was only our immediate families.  My MIL did invite an out of town guest as well but did that over the phone.
  • We are going to do paper invitations but have the RSVP be by email (I'm trying to make sure they will be the same size or smaller as the wedding invitations so we can put in the same envelope). 

    I had suggested doing an e-vite like Paperless Post, but my FMIL said she'd prefer paper. It's basically the only request she's made as far as planning goes so I'm more than happy to oblige :)
  • Our rehearsal dinner is on Halloween and is a costume party at our home. Rather than a super formal invite - we purchased Halloween Party invitations and sent them out. They were on sale at Michaels - so maybe cost about $12 for the two packs of 12. I like receiving non junk mail so we figured it would be nice for others!

    But no - you don't HAVE to send formal or even hard invites. BUT if you want to make sure everyone has all the information - I'd suggest e-mails or texts. That way you shouldn't be getting 20 calls the day of asking time, address, place, etc.
  • I used post cards for both the STD's and the Rehearsal invites.  90% of the guests were from OOT, so I wanted them to have the directions if they brought the card.  I also just liked the idea of sending them the pyhiscal invite.
  • I sent out an e-mail to everyone in the WP and immediate family (our siblings did ceremony readings) to give them the info on the rehearsal itself - time, place, etc. DH's stepmom sent out formal invitations for the RD, but she was paying for half of it (split it with DH's mom) and so that was totally her call as far as I was concerned. A bit unnecessary, IMO, but that's what made her happy.
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  • I did a basic diy invite that came with a template. I had the RSVP I just listed my phone number & email address. I wasn't sure if all SO were coming & we needed to provide a head count. We did have a few OOT guests, but only my parents were familiar with where the church was. So the invite gave everyone something to reference when putting the address in their GPS and the time. It was about postcard size so it wa something easy to put on the fridge as a visual reminder.
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