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I WILL NOT HONEYFUND

birdybride2014birdybride2014 member
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edited October 2014 in Snarky Brides
At my shower on Saturday a girlfriend asked, "Oh birdy, how is honeymoon planning going? Are you still planning on going to that super fancy restaurant?"

"It's going great! And yes! We are so excited! Especially since they have dancing in between courses, it will definitely be very special!"

"Have you guys, like, paid for everything already?"

"Um...no? But...I mean....we have saved for it and made reservations?....We decided to travel somewhere cheaper so we could afford it. We haven't gone in debt for the wedding, so we didn't want to go in debt for the honeymoon, either..."

"You guys should, like, put the restaurant on a registry! People totally do that now days! Then people can pay for things you do on your honeymoon!"

...blank stare. NOPE. 

Also, this was literally a conversation in front of EVERYONE at the shower. I wanted to just be like, "Well, people know they can always give money without us suggesting it/those sites skim off the top!" but that felt especially strange to say when I was at a shower full of gifts. I just bean dipped.

edited bc making sense is hard. 
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  • bahamabride2015bahamabride2015 member
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    I'm getting pressured into this too.  I've been told to just make it on my wedding site and post activities and prices and people will give me the cash to cover it instead of going through the web site... I don't find that better, I still think it's asking for money.
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  • beetherybeethery member
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    bahamabride2015 said:
    I'm getting pressured into this too.  I've been told to just make it on my wedding site and post activities and prices and people will give me the cash to cover it instead of going through the web site... I don't find that better, I still think it's asking for money.
    It is. I don't like it. I also wish people didn't think it was a helpful suggestion :/

    Sorry, not interested in crowdsourcing my honeymoon or wedding thank youuuuuuuu
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    I'm the fuck     out.

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  • thisismynickname2thisismynickname2 member
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    As it turned out, the cash we received as wedding gifts covered our total honeymoon costs. Sha-wing! No honeyfund required!  
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  • birdybride2014birdybride2014 member
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    @thisismynickname EXACTLY! We are happy that we already have the cash we need for the honeymoon. Chance are, yes, we'd probably be able to cover it with money we'll receive at the wedding too, but that is just an awesome benefit! There is no reason that people should assume others will pay for their honeymoon for them. 

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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    If it means so much to her, she can buy you the dang gift card herself. As could anyone else. This is not rocket science.
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  • KatieinBklnKatieinBkln member
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    I might have told this story before, but at one time my ex-boss's boss suggested a honeymoon fund to me. I straight up replied, "Hmm, isn't that pretty tacky though, asking for money?" She replied that everyone does it these days. Facepalm.
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    This baby knows exactly how I feel
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  • SepiaToneSepiaTone member
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    Another issue I'd worry about is people then wanting to know exactly what you did because - well - they DID pay for some of it. I mean, if you get a honeyfund, what happens if you just say: "Eff it, we're going to pay for a new dish washer!" Just don't ask for anything, and people will probably give  money or gift cards.
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  • BouxRadleyBouxRadley member
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    "Well, thanks for the honeyfunding you did, but we kept your money in order to buy our new absolutely-useless-appliance, and instead spent all our time doin' it on the balcony. What a great view." 

    Side note: I really hate it when people ask newlyweds to go into detail on what they did on their honeymoon. 
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  • ohannabelleohannabelle member
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    Why are all these zombie threads being bumped? This one is 8 months old, and the OP hasn't been active since December. 
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  • MegEn1MegEn1 member
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    I got pressured on this for like a hot minute, up until I said 'They skim money off the top when a person gives a card 100% of it goes to the intended purpose instead of some middle man.'

    That's put the issue to rest pretty damn well. 

    Achievement Unlocked: Survived Your Wedding! 
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