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Keeping up the motivation (little vent)

Pburke2010Pburke2010 member
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So I'm in a routine, which with school has always been a challenge for me (and I am proud of myself for this).  I am definitely feeling myself get stronger... I can do a 1min 10 sec plank and before I could barely hold 20sec.  But I haven't lost any weight.  I know that I am probably gaining muscle which weighs more than fat, but I want to lose fat.  I want to be skinny.  I used to be an athlete with really strong legs, and I don't want that. 

Also, my FSIL has lost a lot of weight and just ran over 8 miles.  I am really really happy for her, but at the same time, I know that I may never get there.  Ive had a knee injury my whole life and was told that I would never be able to run over a mile.  I ran my first 5k last year and reinjured my knee and now I'm starting all over for a 5k in August, more time to train.  I just feel like because I"m not running as far as she is or losing as much weight as she is that my accomplishments are put in the background. 

I don't want to be selfish, but I feel so alone in this journey, and I know support is the key.  I am keeping up with my routine, but it's hard to keep up the motivation. 
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Re: Keeping up the motivation (little vent)

  • anna.oskaranna.oskar member
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    What are you doing in regards to your diet?  Exercise alone is not the best way to acheive weight loss.  It's great that you're working out though and bravo on the routine!  So many people have trouble getting themselves into a healthy one.

    Tell us a bit more about yourself.  What you eat, how many cals, foods you love, goal weight loss, or just anything about yourself.
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  • Pburke2010Pburke2010 member
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    I usually eat between 1600-2000 cals.  I love chocolate and fried food so I've been staying away from that.  I started at 200lbs I want to lose about 50 lbs total.  I'm around 194ish now since January.   But my goal for the wedding is 25.  Im getting married in December.  This isn't about looking good at the wedding for me, it's about a lifestyle change that will hopefully take place because of the wedding. 

    I love pasta, so I've switched to whole grain pasta, using pinterest to find healthier recipes.  I usually have cereal or toast for breakfast during the week, bagel on teh weekends, and maybe scrambled eggs.  I love having soup for lunch.  Will substitute that for slimfast bars or shakes sometimes.  I usually have fruit or yogurt as a small snack.  Dinner varies, but trying to get my dad and FI into healthier recipes.  I live 50% with my parents and 50% with FI while I"m in school.

    I'm in school until April 30th.  So the fact that I have kept a routine for this long is unusual for me.  I usually just stop when school gets busy.  I think an issue is that I've always been active, I"m not going from sedentary to active immediately. I"ve always gone to the gym so it's going to take longer. 
     
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  • Pburke2010Pburke2010 member
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    I feel like I'm clinging to my Pinterest for motivation.  One of my bridesmaids has lost 70lbs and my FSIL is down 60 lbs and ran 8.5 miles today.  I just feel like everything I'm doing is not enough.  And I don't want to be selfish.  I want them to be successful in it, but I want to be successful myself.  And I feel guilty for that too.  =/
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  • anna.oskaranna.oskar member
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    Totally doable goals.  I'm not too far off where you're sitting for weight (I'm still in the 200 club) but as long as I don't hit a ridiculous plateau, I'm on track to lose another 30lbs by my birthday in August.

    I hear ya on school though.  I'm a full time student too and sometimes it feel like it would be so much easier to just live school and forget about the hassle of counting calories.  The biggest tip I can give you is to snack.  I seriously snack all the time.  AND totally eat chocolate.  Those little Ghiradelli bars are only 50 cals so easy to fit into a daily diet. plus the dark chocolate isn't all bad for you.  Have you tried cocoa roasted almonds?  Totally delicious.  I'm eating some right now mixed into frozen yogurt.

    You are totally not alone.  My overall goal is to get to about 150 (I don't ever remember being that size.  Stick around here.  There are some really swell, supportive, and sweet ladies on this board.

    Just yell or private message me if you need anything.  I'm here to help.
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  • Pburke2010Pburke2010 member
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    I'm trying to find more snack foods.  My thing is gum.  I like to chew gum to avoid pointless eating.  Also found substitutes for chocolate.  Like banana bites with some peanut butter and melted chocolate.  Then freeze.  Really good haha. 

    I guess I"m just having a bad day.  I told FI that I need him to celebrate with me that I can run 1.75 mi on a treadmill.  It doesn't seem like a lot to some, but for me it hurt like hell.  And I was able to keep going. He didn't notice, but I"m talking to him now about it, so he's aware.  It's so important to have that support in this journey. 

    Thanks!!
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  • lynchaalynchaa
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    I was about where you are two years ago. I thought about where I was and what I wanted to change and personally, I realized I was sabotaging myself. I was training for a 10K and eating my calories back when what I wanted was to lose weight. The realization changed everything for me. Things that really helped me lose were taking a look at eating at night (making dinners low-carb) and reducing alocohol intake. Also, putting myself on a 5 "meals" a day routine, I have egg whites with cheese in the morning before work, cucumber slices in the morning, turkey chili or soup for lunch (not creamy soup though), bell pepper slices or something similar as an aftrnoon snack and something for dinner earlier than 730. Your goals are totally doable! I love self.com, shapemagazine.com, and fitness.com for new exercises.

    Good luck!
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  • entropicbeautyentropicbeauty member
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    Hey, you can do it! I find this board inspiring as well as all the ladies on MyFitnessPal.com who comment back and forth with positive messages!

    I've also found that because so many of my family and friends are ALSO trying to lose weight for my wedding, we sort of hold eachother accountable and have conversations about how we're acheiving our goals. This weekend I went out to dinner with a friend and we intentionally went to a place that makes specialty salads so we'd still feel like we were having a treat by going out, but it was still a healthier option than deep fried high calorie/fat food.

    Find what personally motivates you and don't be afraid to ask your family/friends for the support you need. Get a workout buddy if you need to!
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  • Pburke2010Pburke2010 member
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    I think I just had a really hard time that my fsil ran 8.5 miles which I will probably never be able to do. I celebrate my victories 9 times out of 10. But its hard to celebrate alone. And its harder when everyone else celebrates something so big, that wont be in my future. I'm so close to being done school on moving in with FI and we will have control with what comes into the house, which is huge
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