Hi everyone,
Tonight my fiance and I met with the pastor at the church I was raised in and we really liked him. Obviously that doesn't seem like a problem, but the issue is that my fiance is atheist and I'm much more agnostic at this point in my life. I know its important to me to have a spiritual component to our wedding but I'm not sure how far to take that. The pastor at the church is willing to work to adapt the wedding ceremony to our needs but I feel I gave the impression I'm more religious than I am and now I'm feeling like maybe its not the right fit for us to have a religious figure marry us.
My mom's reaction when I told her we may not have a religious ceremony made me feel really conflicted about even my own stance on things. I was raised very active in the church and my fiance and actually met at our church, went to church camp together as teens, and baptized our daughter there 3 years ago. At this point in time we are not active at the church although our daughter does attend the preschool affiliated with them and my parents remain active members. I still believe in God but much past that I'm not sure about. I'm wondering if anyone has any thoughts or has dealt with any situation similar to this. I guess the hardest part for me is I'm truly unsure how much the more traditional Christian components matter to me in regards to the wedding. How do you stay true to yourselves as a couple amongst all the options out there as well as the pressure from family?