Re-introduction

ChemFanatic25 · November 2014

Hi Everyone!!! So I was on here a long time ago, like about 9 months ago but my ex-FI and I went through a breakup and I figured it would be a good idea to hop off for a while so I wasn't worrying about wedding stuff. Also, thank you so much to everyone who messaged me and talked me through my concerns and fears. You are all such amazing women and your advice was greatly appreciated.

I figured since I have been gone so long, I should probably reintroduce myself. I started lurking again but am hesitant to do it too much because I don't want to get into that mindset of "I need to get married now!" But I miss the community and all of the wonderful ladies I got to talk with. So here it goes:

Screen Name: ChemFanatic25
Age: 24
Significant Other's Age: 27
What You Do: Chemical Engineer/Project Manager
What SO Does: Electrical Engineer (I have a type apparently)
State of Relationship: Steady and very happy
How Long You've Been Together: a little more than 7 months
How You Met: Actually through my ex-FI. They work together so there is a bit slight awkwardness there.
Wedding Date (if you're engaged/married): Nope, nope, nope. Just happily dating :-)
Real Babies: None
Fur Babies: My little girl - Madison Missy - she is my beautiful pitbull
Loves: Food - yeah my first major trip was New Orleans because I really REALLY wanted to try the food (and I got to meet short + sassy and her husband!) , doing tons of crafts, relaxing and watching shows, and now traveling!
Hates: People - just kidding. Just not a big fan of crowds. Makes me very anxious. Plans completely falling apart after all the effort you put into them.
Pet Peeves: Unwashed dishes for weeks. I can handle days. Weeks - nuh-uh
Hobbies/Activities: Crocheting and knitting, scrapbooking, walking my pup.
Favorite Thing About Your SO: He is so sweet. He knows I love to dance (not in groups but alone at my house) and he'll turn a song on and start dancing with me, even though he hates dancing. He gets embarrassed but I just think he's cute.
Least Favorite Thing About Your SO: He gets stressed about traveling. Which isn't great because I also stress about traveling. It's why I haven't done it much before now. But add him into the mix and it's a heyday. But we have worked passed it and although there have been bumps I love traveling with him.
Describe Your Personality: Bubbly, enthusiastic, and talkative.
Snark Level (1 [low snark] - 10 [high snark]): 5-6; I have a hard time working with stupidity but I try to be forgiving. I apologize if I get sarcastic.
I've Been On TK Since: Hmmm since probably May 2013? but I hopped off for about 8 months and am now back on. Hello everyone!
How You Came to Be On TK: Was previously engaged.
How I like my potatoes: Fried most definitely but I also like them roast with a bit of sea salt, olive oil, and thyme

Favorite book/author: I just recently read The Martian by Andy Weir. What a great book!

Tell Us Something Interesting About Yourself: I have never really traveled until I started dating my SO, but since then I have seen a little bit more than 1/3rd of the United States. I am excited because it is on my bucket list to see the rest of the country.

[Deleted User] · November 2014

Welcome back! Sorry to hear about your engagement ending. It sounds like you started dating this other guy fairly soon after your engagement ended (Don't take that as criticism, since I met my H after one month of breaking up with my ex-BF, I can't say much). Did you two have a strong friendship prior to your breakup?

I just went to NO for the first time in October! Best place ever! Loved the food!

ChemFanatic25 · November 2014

Yeah, we did start dating relatively soon after my ex-FI and I broke up. About a month and a half I believe. We were pretty good friends before and I actually didn't want to mess anything up because we have so much in common and I'd rather be friends with him then lose him. Sounds crazy but I didn't have many friends where I live now and it was great talking to him.

Also I believe I was ready to date again because I was already done with my previous relationship for a while. I know, it sounds absolutely terrible. I was seeing a couple's counselor, I was trying to make sense of everything and looking for advice where ever I could. I was planning the wedding because I thought that maybe I was just scared and I need to do something that would put me back in the desire of wanting to spend the rest of my life with my ex. I finally realized that while I loved (still do love him) my ex, I was no longer in love with him. So when my current SO asked me out, I was ready to say yes.

NOLA was one heck of an experience. We went at the beginning of October as well! It was perfect. At first I was really stressed out but by the second day of being there I was able to relieve the stress and enjoy myself. It was amazing! And I love LOVE gumbo! Yum, yum, yum!

[Deleted User] · November 2014

@Chemfanatic25 -I was in the same kind of situation. My H and I weren't friends prior to me dating my ex-BF but our relationship was over long before we actually ended it. I can see how that might be awkward though that he works with your ex-FI. Are they friends as well? Or did they used to be?

We were probably in NOLA at the same time...that's funny. We drank those Hand Grenades the whole time! Loved those!

ChemFanatic25 · November 2014

My SO and I were friends prior to me breaking up with my ex, but just as a disclaimer, I did not break up with my ex because of him. My ex and I had a lot of differences that we both realized we would not be able to get passed, which was perfectly fine.

My ex and my SO were friends and they actually work right next to each other but they don't really talk anymore. That I do feel bad about but my SO is so wonderful, I have a hard time maintaining that feeling.

Hand Grenades? I don't remember seeing those. I loved the breakfast food at the Old Coffee Pot. I got the lost bread. One of my favorite meals down there. I did try a hurricane too. That was delicious.

KeptInStitches · November 2014

Pictures of your dog please.

Also, what's the most recent knitting or crocheting project you finished?

AuroraRose41 · November 2014

@ChemFanatic25 Hi and welcome back!

I am glad that you figured things out with your ex and are now in a happy and stable relationship! Also yay for more engineers on here! I'm an Electrical Engineer

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I second the request for fur baby pictures!

CLoGreenEyes · November 2014

Hi and welcome back! I'm sorry to hear about your break-up, but glad you have a wonderful SO and that life sounds pretty good now. It's weird how this community can be both helpful and hindering when going through a break-up; I ended a five-year relationship a while ago, and while I still love talking to everyone here, the wedding stuff sometimes creates a huge woe-is-me effect, lol.

I second the request for pics of your furbaby. What's on your travel bucket list? Do you know your Meyers Briggs type?

ChemFanatic25 · November 2014

Hi everyone! Thank you for the greetings . . . pictures, pictures, pictures. . . . oh! Here are some of the little cutie (oh and one of my SO and I).

My most recent knitting project is several things. One of my best friends is having a baby and so I am making her and her husband a gender neutral blanket (I am not a fan of pink and I know they'll like the colors). I'm also working on several infinity scarves for my sister and friends. I am working with this beautiful alpaca yarn that is so soft but a pain to work with.

On my travel list - inside the U.S. I would like to see the Grand Canyon and visit Yellowstone State Park. I also want to do a scotch tour in Scotland, eat ramen in a ramen shop in Japan, and climb one of the mountains in Hawaii. My list is a bit extensive . . .

My Meyers Briggs type is ISJF but I have read that it can change in different situations and over time. Since I have been a couple of life changing situations recently, I'm probably a bit different from what I used to be. I most definitely do agree with the (I) part because I am very introverted. I draw my energy from being alone most of the time rather than being with groups. I love hanging out with my friends but I like to wander off and just stick to myself and peruse reddit or read a book or magazine. When at home I like to do tons of different crafts.

Also electrical engineers are fun! My ex is an EE and my SO is an EE/CompE. Most of my friends are ChemE's or EE's. Fun group of people to hang out with.

[Deleted User] · November 2014

I can't believe you didn't see the hand grenades! They were the long green cups that people were carrying around the streets! They were sooo good but super strong so we could only have one without becoming completely drunk.

ChemFanatic25 · November 2014

CLoGreenEyes said:

Hi and welcome back! I'm sorry to hear about your break-up, but glad you have a wonderful SO and that life sounds pretty good now. It's weird how this community can be both helpful and hindering when going through a break-up; I ended a five-year relationship a while ago, and while I still love talking to everyone here, the wedding stuff sometimes creates a huge woe-is-me effect, lol.
I second the request for pics of your furbaby. What's on your travel bucket list? Do you know your Meyers Briggs type?

Yes, that is exactly why I hopped off for a while. I don't want to be one of those people who wants to get married because they want that huge wedding. I know I would and so I stayed away for a while. But now I have stabilized myself and I am in a really great relationship that I am enjoying day-to-day. While I most definitely think of our future, I more think about the things we will do later on from the small things like what books and movies we plan to read to the big things like traveling and home ownership. Though I have been thinking more of home ownership on my own because I have always wanted a house so that's always been in my future (at least the planned one).

I really missed interacting with everyone though and asking for advice so I decided to hop back on about a month ago and have been just lurking. I love the advice that everyone is still providing and it gets me thinking about what I do in my daily life. Making sure I'm respectful and considerate of others. Observant of my relationships and time to myself.

ChemFanatic25 · November 2014

southernpeach89 said:

I can't believe you didn't see the hand grenades! They were the long green cups that people were carrying around the streets! They were sooo good but super strong so we could only have one without becoming completely drunk.

Oh! I most definitely did then. I did not realize that is what they were called though. I don't actually remember seeing an advertisement for them. I did see a lot of alcoholic smoothie advertisements. There was like one on every single corner of Bourbon Street.

What did you think of Bourbon Street? I was not used to have people walking around with alcohol in their hands on public property. Threw me off a bit. I got to do a cemetery tour and that was a lot of fun. So much history on those plots of lands. Saw a ton of museums too. My favorite was the World War II museum. What did you do while you were down there? We obviously had to the do the cliche things like buy beads and masks and we had beignets. yum yum yum!

[Deleted User] · November 2014

We loved Bourbon Street but we didn't stick around it past midnight because it would get too crazy for us. I'm not used to the people running around half naked or puking all over themselves. I kind of liked being able to walk around with a drink in my hand though, that was cool.

We did a cemetery tour which was pretty cool, I liked learning about the history and all the different things about NO. We didn't get to go to very many museums since we were there for just a weekend but we walked around everywhere! We went to all the cool restaurants, Jackson Square, the Casino (it was my first time being in a casino), and we spent a lot of time at Cafe Du Monde basically stuffing our face with beignets lol.

We are definitely going to go back!

cu97tiger · November 2014

I'm sad I had no hand grenades that weekend in Nola, @southernpeach89... but I drank more than enough beer/wine/Captain, so I can't complain too much

OP - welcome back and I'm sorry about your breakup but it sounds like you're in a good place now.

Favorite television show? Favorite type of wine?

ChemFanatic25 · November 2014

Favorite Television show: Right now I am watching the Walking Dead and Hannibal. Really like Hannibal. Walking Dead is pretty good too. I absolutely love Rules of Engagement and Modern Family.

Favorite Type of Wine: Moscato - specifically Catello del Pogio Moscato from Provincia Di Pavia (Hope I said it right). The moscato served at Olive Garden. I like the bubbliness though I am starting to lean away from the sweet wines - it's almost like they're too sweet.

labro · November 2014

Welcome back OP! I am absolutely dying over the photo of your dog in a tutu!!! So cute!

ChemFanatic25 · November 2014

Yeah, I'll admit I love dressing my dog up but I have associated it with something good, going outside. If she hate it I would not do it to her because I wouldn't want to torture but gosh darnet she can really wear that tutu.

GoldenPenguin · November 2014

Welcome back! Your puppy is absolutely ADORABLE!! I love pits so much. FI & I have a Golden, but I really want to adopt a pittie.

We are exact opposites on Myers-Briggs!! I am an ENTP!

AuroraRose41 · November 2014

ChemFanatic25 said:

Favorite Television show: Right now I am watching the Walking Dead and Hannibal. Really like Hannibal. Walking Dead is pretty good too. I absolutely love Rules of Engagement and Modern Family.

Favorite Type of Wine: Moscato - specifically Catello del Pogio Moscato from Provincia Di Pavia (Hope I said it right). The moscato served at Olive Garden. I like the bubbliness though I am starting to lean away from the sweet wines - it's almost like they're too sweet.

I used to love Moscato too, but gradually started drinking Riesling and Chardonnay. I highly recommend Barefoot Riesling. It's a sweeter Riesling (others can be very dry), but not as sweet as Moscato. I still like to get Moscato every once in a while, but I find it too sweet most of the time now. I have also found that most Chardonnays that list fruity notes on the label are good too. They still have some sweetness but no where near as sweet as Moscato.

I have become quite the wine snob since moving to California last year, so I can definitely provide some other recommendations too!

phira · November 2014

Welcome back and EXCUSE ME but your dog is so frickin adorable!!

I hear you on not wanting to hear about everyone's wedding stuff. My poor sister ended a 5-year relationship this spring, and since then, we've already had two family weddings with two more coming up (two more coming up are me, and then our brother). She'll leave the room now if people start talking about wedding stuff.

Swazzle · November 2014

Welcome back!

Peaseblossom55 · November 2014

HI and welcome back.

speakeasy14 · November 2014

Your dog is absolutely adorable!!

AuroraRose41 wine suggestions.

ChemFanatic25 · November 2014

phira said:

Welcome back and EXCUSE ME but your dog is so frickin adorable!!

I hear you on not wanting to hear about everyone's wedding stuff. My poor sister ended a 5-year relationship this spring, and since then, we've already had two family weddings with two more coming up (two more coming up are me, and then our brother). She'll leave the room now if people start talking about wedding stuff.

I don't do this but I had to exit facebook for a while because it seemed like everyone was getting married. I probably could count on both hands how many people were getting engaged and married. One was a close friend and when she started posting about how she asked all of her bridesmaids and they all said yes I had to hop off for a while. I'm really happy for her and her fiance (another close friend) but I really couldn't deal with it anymore. I guess that makes me a terrible person but better to keep it to myself rather than blow :-/

I did get a little snarky when her fiance said "ChemFanatic, you'll really like this. We are almost done making all the decisions for our wedding. We just have to pick between photographer 1 and 2." and I got a little rude and said "why would I like that? It doesn't impact me. I guess, good job." I felt bad afterwards because he said "well you're so organized so I figured you'd appreciate how on time we are." I apologized and said "it's awesome that you are so far ahead of the game."

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