Our "you get a plus one" criteria: don't know a lot of the other wedding
guests AND don't have a significant other (because we would have just invited the
SO).
that said, I have a few friends who meet both criteria and get
plus-ones no problem. However, my family members do not meet the first
criterion because they are family and they know the whole family. But
I've found out (through the family gossip chain) that my uncle has a GF
that may or may not move cross country, that my cousin moved in with his
GF (that I never even knew he had), that my aunt is dating some guy
that knows the whole family (except my parents apparently) and is
allegedly weird, that my other cousin is on and off again with her
girlfriend, and so on.
Though these people are all close family members,
none of them updated me on their lives and none of them bring their
people around for holidays and visits and such.
And given the tentativeness of most of their situations, can I just put their individual names on the Save The Dates and then I can
put an actual significant other on their actual invitation if things are more serious down the line? And if yes, can I
do that with all of my guests with plus ones, as we are trying to
invite more people from our b-list instead anyway….