Mermaid or ball gown?Advice please!

Re: Mermaid or ball gown?Advice please!

• Maggie0829 member

  

  November 2014

  You should pick a dress that you love and feel beautiful in.  Remember you are the one who has to wear the dress and you are the one that needs to be happy in it.  Do you really want to look back on your pictures and regret your dress choice because you decided to only listen to your FI and not yourself?  I get wanting to make your SO happy but you need to be happy as well.  And personally I think letting your SO decide on what you wear all the time, even though you don't like what he picks out, is getting into doormat territory.  The fact that your FI is so vocal about what he hates on you, even though he knows that you love it and feel good in it, is just disgusting to me.

  
  

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• theartistformerlyknownas member

  

  November 2014

  Everything Maggie said. You need to stand up for yourself and your choices.

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• lacqueredlover member

  

  November 2014

  Wow this is super controlling of him.  And kinda weird.

  
  

  It's your body.  YOU choose what goes on it.  Wear what you feel beautiful in.

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• esstee33 member

  

  November 2014

  pearlluo said:

  When my FI was just my boyfriend,I love to show all the outfits(shoes,dress or outwear) that I love to him.He nearly hate all the attire that I love.So after about a long time(maybe one year I am not sure),I let him to pick up the outfits for me, unfortunately,I don't like most things  that he chosen for me either.Now It comes to my wedding dress.We decided to rent one,so we went the store together,I fell in love with a mermaid one,however,he said a ball gown is better.But I never take a ball gown style into my consideration before!I really don't know which one should I choose.

  
  

  
  

  Why are you letting your FI dress you like you're his own personal, life-size Barbie? It's your body and your choice of what you want to wear. It's one thing to have preferences, but it's entirely another to dictate to you what clothes you can wear and what you can't. And now you're just stifling your actual taste in order to appease him? Stop. 

  
  

  Get whatever dress makes you feel incredible and like the hottest broad on the planet. 

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• nicole4793 member

  

  November 2014

  Go with what makes you feel like a beautiful bride. On your wedding day, he'll love the way you look no matter what. If he has the nerve to say "you should've picked a ballgown" on your wedding day, then he is a total jerk! 

  
  

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• mikenberger member

  

  November 2014

  It is YOUR dress. I agree with the PPs, yes its nice to want to please your FI but its ultimately your choice. If he wants you to wear a ball gown dress, tell him he can wear one if its that important to him. And how rude of him to have any negative opinion on your dress. He should think you're the most gorgeous thing on the planet. Ball gown or not.

  
  

  
  

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• CMGragain member

  

  November 2014

  After many years I have learned to NEVER take DH shopping with me unless it is for electronics or cars.  Life is much more peaceful that way.
  

  

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• weddingcactus member

  

  November 2014

  pearlluo said:

  When my FI was just my boyfriend,I love to show all the outfits(shoes,dress or outwear) that I love to him.He nearly hate all the attire that I love.So after about a long time(maybe one year I am not sure),I let him to pick up the outfits for me, unfortunately,I don't like most things  that he chosen for me either.Now It comes to my wedding dress.We decided to rent one,so we went the store together,I fell in love with a mermaid one,however,he said a ball gown is better.But I never take a ball gown style into my consideration before!I really don't know which one should I choose.

  First of all, I struggle to comprehend this kind of relationship. How old are you both exactly? I do not always like what my fiance wears and sometimes he doesn't "get" or doesn't like something I wear, but we each dress ourselves and don't meddle in what one another wears. Sometimes I ask for his opinion on something, but I would be pretty pissed off if he hated every single thing I wear. To me that sounds insanely controlling and I would never wear clothes I hated just because he liked them. It's my body and I'll dress it how I like (within reason), thank-you-very-much. I suppose there are women out there in these kinds of relationships (I think I've seen them on TV before) so maybe my surprise is unfounded.

  
  

  Back to the issue of your wedding dress, are you just surprised at the idea of a ball gown? Or did you actually like the mermaid dresses and not like the ball gown? To me, there is a big difference. It's one thing to be introduced to a new idea and not be ready for it, but ultimately it should be your decision. It's your dress and I think it's important that you're happy in it. If your fiance can't get behind the idea of you choosing a dress that makes you happy, well, yikes. To me that's pretty scary. 

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• kvruns member

  

  November 2014

  Choose whatever YOU like better. You can fake his opinion into consideration but if you always wear what he likes and not what you like that seems unhealthy. Don't regret your wedding dress choice 10 years from now bc you were trying to make HIM happy. He should be happy to marry you in a trash bag let alone a dress of your choosing

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• pearlluo member

  

  November 2014

  Thank you!I have got much deeper undertanding of our relationship now.In the past,I dress what he chosen for me to please him.I love his smile,when he is happy I think it is really worth for me to dress what he love and start to choose things from his aspect.Now I will dress for myself on my wedding day!The mermaid dress is really my dream dress!I found a similar one.
  http://www.aliexpress.com/store/product/Free-Shipping-2014-Winter-Design-White-Lace-And-See-Through-V-neck-Mermaid-Wedding-Dress-With/1267423_32229288261.html
  It looks like this one but what I love is a strapless style and has a shiny band on the waist which makes me love it more!Is it really beautiful?
  

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