My MOH's younger brother has been battling cancer for the past 4 years. This week things have gotten much worse and it is very likely he won't make it to the wedding. MOH and I grew up together and her family has always been like a second family to me, this is an unbearably painful time. We don't know how much time he has left but at the pace things are going it seems like this is going to progress rather quickly. I have told her to stop planning the shower and bachelorette party but she insists because she says keeping busy helps to keep her mind off of things. I don't know what to do as a friend to help her through this. If she says this helps her then I want her to keep doing it but I hate to think her energy is being taken up by something for me rather than her brother. I honestly have no idea what to do. I also feel very strange because I am devastated by this, it feels as if I am losing my own brother...except he's not my brother. I don't know how I am going to be able to get through this, so I cannot even imagine how my MOH is going to do it. It makes planning all this happiness around a wedding seem wrong. It makes me nervous that he is going to pass close to the wedding and I am going to be beside myself but have to go on with a wedding and pretend I'm overjoyed to all my guests (most of whom are my FI's family and don't know the full situation) but really that is going to happen anyway because we have so many wedding related events in the next few months. If it were up to me, I would postpone all of this but that doesn't feel appropriate because he's not my brother... My heart is broken for my MOH and her family. But I also feel that my feelings and fears about the wedding are inappropriate because again he's not my brother. I am trying so hard to be there for her in the way that she needs me but I have honestly no idea how to do that. I have never been in this position before, there is nothing that really prepares you for this sort of thing. Sorry to kind of vent but any sort of advice in this is appreciated.