So FI and I are in a bit of a tricky situation and aren't sure what to do... A close friend of mine has been on and off dating the same person for around a year now. We have met him a few times and we invited him to our engagement party as well. Well at the engagement party her date was unappropriately drunk and his actions (making passes at my step-mom, older sister, a close family friend.. overheard making not appropriate comments about FI's sister, and took a tumble). All of this ended with my sister asking him to leave which finally was enforced by my BIL (and thankfully was handled away from the rest of the party guests). We were told after the e-party that her date is an alcoholic and is now attending meetings, has a sponsor, etc. The couple have since broken up and gotten back together twice and we have not seen, or heard from Him since the e-party (summer).
So our question now is... We are currently addressing our save the dates and don't know how to address hers? I didn't have her STD or invite pre-addressed as I wasn't sure what to put, I figured for the invite I have some time before sending it out so would wait it out. That being said, do I address the STD with just her name, her name and guest? Are we obligated to invite her on and off SO to the wedding with all that has happened? We feel uneasy about the situation as on one hand I don't want to ruin a friendship, but on the other hand we are responsible for our guests in the venue and I don't want any drama on the big day.
Sorry for such a long winded post! TIA