FI's bachelor party
So here's a quick back story:
FI has 7 GMs and his dad is the BM. They are going to a cabin in the mountains for a weekend for his bachelor party as group. Nothing has been set in stone, they are working on the details.
My older brother is playing the music for the ceremony, my little brother is and usher, and FI's BIL is an usher. Now, FI does not like his sister's husband. They just don't mesh well and BIL is very immature and really annoys FI. FSIL and FBIL got married in October. FI and I were both in the wedding. I think BIL expected to be in ours as well but instead of being a GM he is an usher.
Well, last night FMIL told FI that he HAD to invite BIL because he is family. FI was planning on inviting only GMs. If he invites BIL, he feels like he should invite my brothers as well (I told him that was unnecessary and they wouldn't care). FMIL said that FSIL told her that BIL's feelings were hurt he hadn't been invited or heard anything yet. Well first of all, no one other than the GMs have heard anything because that's all FI was planning to invite. Secondly, FI has a hand full of other friends he wanted to invite but a cabin is only so big. Thirdly, why would anyone assume they are invited? FI is so mad that he is being forced to do this.
I told him to not make waves and to just invite him when they have concrete plans and not to worry about inviting my brothers. He said he'd rather invite my brothers (sorrynotsorry my brothers are awesome) but they'll live and honestly won't care or expect to be included. I asked him how he would feel if his sister felt the way FI feels about her H about me (if that makes sense)?
I mean, are we wrong in thinking he shouldn't have to invite BIL just because he is a 32 year old who got his feelings hurt? He is going to invite him because he loves his sister and doesn't want to cause any tension but I can tell he is very mad about this.
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