Well at the end of the day i am a wife so I'm trying to not think of all the negatives however my wedding wasn't how i pictured...as reference I've been engaged for 5 years, lived with his for that long and we have a kiddo together(kiddo 2) and i have a kiddo from a pervious marraige that has always considered my husband his dad(kiddo 1).
anyway we got married yesterday at a beautiful castle. We decided to stay the weekend at the castle and it was pretty cool. The staff was friendly and helpful and the grounds were very pretty offering a lot of fun photo ops. Honestly the staff was great and handled our wedding and "reception" very professionally. The weather was chilly but not horrible, it basically allowed me to wear my fur stole with my dress (which went together really well) and i was also able to take pics without the stole as well. Our photographer was amazing. He made me feel at ease and i think we got some great pictures! They would show us a few shots they felt were really good and I really appreciated that they would take the pictures I'd think of as well as think of some really creative shots as well. My brooch bouquet and the guys brooch boots were a big hit too!
By far the absolute best part of the day was when we exchanged gifts. We decided to do a first look and exchange gifts so we could get our reactions on film. He got me a great watch and had it engraved and i also got him a watch he's been wanting since we got together and had it engraved as well. He Then gives me a secondbox which had a beautiful pearl necklace in it to wear with my dress. After looking at it for a minute he off hand tells me (like it's no big deal) that he made my necklace. He actually took each individual pearl and strung them on the necklace (just FYI pearls are strung then knotted after each pearl. It prevents a break and loosing all your pearls).
The ehh things that happened (you know the i could have done without that but it's not a huge deal/can be overlooked) my hair and makeup weren't how i would have preferred, it's due mostly to the fact that I was under prepared and partly because the makeup artist didn't use great makeup for a wedding (mascara was gunky on my eyelashes and it eventually got all under my eyes, lipstick was a mess, uneven eyeliner ect), my hair wasn't how i thought it'd turn out but she did a goodjob on my mmom's hair. The officiant didn't do the ceremony we had agreed on months ago and instead did a quick 10 minute ceremony...that sucked, she didn't bless the rings or do our unity ceremony. Also my husband's parents left almost immediately after the ceremony, we planned to go to dinner but that didn't happen so I'm glad we had cupcakes, a veggie tray and a cheese and cracker tray as some sort of reception. Also the restaurant we planned to have dinner, well they lost our reservation and we're completely unprepared for us. There was no one to greet us or seat us, the restaurant wasn't at all how it appeared online(destination wedding so I did most of it online) it took roughly an hour to an hour and a half before our food was brought out...but the food was pretty delicious, it just took a long a time and wasn't as fancy as it sounded.
then there are the major, I can't get over it issues. As some of you remember I was irritated with my husband's step mom and dad...well his dad wasn't an issue but his step mom...whole other issue. As soon as she arrived she loudly announced that we should have gotten married in the courthouse before kiddo 2 was born(3 strikes woman...this is it for you). Then at one point my mom made a toast and afterward did the tapping on the glass so we'd kiss. I jokingly said i didn't want to kiss him and she had to loudly say over and over "oh NOW you don't want to kiss! Look what happened BEFORE you got married!" Line was crossed again...even now I'm steaming over it...you can't call kiddo 2 a bastard and me a sl*t then in the same breath dote over kiddo 2. Then the next thing out of your mouth tell me my kiddo doesn't want me (the mother) to hold them, they want someone else. *eye roll*
at the end of the day it's a done deal, I married the most amazing, supportive, generous man and that's all that really matters.
