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Thank You Note Monograms?

Knottie67061412.defunct635820613259681241Knottie67061412.defunct635820613259681241 member
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My mother just bought be 250 beautiful monogrammed thank you notes for my birthday, monogrammed with my full maiden name. My wedding is in June 2016. 

I love them but am wondering if it's appropriate to use these for engagement and wedding gifts my fiancé and I receive since they only have my full name on them? I know it's not appropriate to use our married monograms until after the reception, but will it be awkward to send these out for gifts we receive before the wedding? Will it be awkward to sign them "Monica & Mike" when my full name is at the top? Please tell me if I am overthinking this :-)
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    Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    I think it's fine to use them now since you haven't changed your name. 

    You might ask your FI to cosign the thank-you notes (which you really should send ASAP after receiving any gifts for your wedding).
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    theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    Yeah I'd use them for anything you receive before the wedding. Write them in the first person but reference him, aka "Mike and I can't wait to make bread in our new pans!" You can still sign as "Monica and Mike;" it's obvious that you're the one writing it. Plus... nobody cares what your thank you card looks like as long as they get one. ;)
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    thisismynickname2thisismynickname2 member
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    PPs are right. 

    I'm just a bit flabbergasted that she'd buy two hundred and fifty cards for you to use in the next 1.5 years. .... 

    Like really, 250? I hope she got a good deal. Seems wasteful if you're planning to change your name. (Very generous, surely. I'm just surprised.) 
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    JoanE2012JoanE2012 member
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    edited November 2014
    I'd use them for anything received before the wedding.  For wedding gifts given on your wedding day, I wouldn't use them.

    I also think it's kinda weird to buy so many thank you notes with your maiden name when she knows you're getting married soon.  ETA - Unless she knows you're keeping your maiden name?
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    holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 member
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    Knottie67061412 said:

    My mother just bought be 250 beautiful monogrammed thank you notes for my birthday, monogrammed with my full maiden name. My wedding is in June 2016. 


    I love them but am wondering if it's appropriate to use these for engagement and wedding gifts my fiancé and I receive since they only have my full name on them? I know it's not appropriate to use our married monograms until after the reception, but will it be awkward to send these out for gifts we receive before the wedding? Will it be awkward to sign them "Monica & Mike" when my full name is at the top? Please tell me if I am overthinking this :-)
    You're totally fine.




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