First Marriage Prep Meeting... 75 minutes?

Re: First Marriage Prep Meeting... 75 minutes?

• catarntina member

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  FOCCUS review -- takes like 30 minutes.
  Paperwork.
  Getting to know you.
  Making sure you weren't married before, don't have children, aren't living together, etc, etc.
  
  It'll easily last 75 minutes.
  
  My pre-cana classes were 3 hours long, met 4 times a month for 1 month, then I had 2 hour NFP classes once a month for 3 months, in addition to meeting with the Deacon to go over paperwork take the FOCCUS then meeting with sponsor couple to go over FOCCUS results.
  
  75 minutes is nothing in the grand scheme.

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• tammythetiger

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  We were required to do two counseling sessions and they lasted closer to 90 minutes each.  We actually ran out of time...you may be surprised at how quikly it goes by.  First one we talked about "family of origin," took the FOCCUS at a separate time and then reviewed our results with the counselor during the second session.  Next weekend we are going on our engaged encounter retreat for 2 days.

  
  

  Honestly, my FI and I have really enjoyed it.  The whole process has brought insight to each other's needs/wants, personalities, etc.  Have fun!

  Wedding bliss since January 14, 2012!

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• HelloKaty37

  

  August 2011 edited December 2011

  Went to the meeting this morning and basically what you two said was what happened.  We introduced ourselves, talked about how we met and how long we've been together, heard about the process (two two-hour long meetings after this one plus a day long retreat), and took the pre-marriage inventory, which wasn't the FOCCUS, but was very similar.  They gave us two workbooks to take home, which both look really good, and we'll get our inventory results back in a little over a week.  I was a little surprised at just how much we had both talked about the things on the inventory, but I probably shouldn't have been since we've been together for five years.  We compared answers afterwards and seem to have both answered the same on how many kids we want, financial things, parental roles, etc.  The only thing that threw us both off was the section asking about our families growing up.  Neither of us had really reflected on that aspect of our lives much.  It was particularly nice that this all didn't seem to bore or bother my fiance, who isn't really religious.  I figured he would roll his eyes at the whole process, but he seemed to enjoy at least the inventory part.
  
  Now I just have to figure out if he was baptized.  He thinks he might have been, his mom thinks he probably wasn't, and the church it would have happened at doesn't keep baptismal records, so they're going around to the youth ministers who were there at the time to see if any of them remember him.  It's a mess!

  After five years he finally asked!

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