I have had 2 friends tell me they want to have an engagement party for my fiance and me. my fiance and i live over 3 hours away from each other so the parties are separate towns. how do i handle this? i do not want anyone to incur the cost or hassle of a party. do i decline? i am totally out of my comfort zone - any advice would be great. also, isn't it proper that anyone who is invited to an engagement party is then invited to the wedding? and secondly, i was told to register...do i do that too? btw - i can not find any info online as most website are geared towards a young bride whose parents would be hosting the engagement party.