Cupcake flavor RSVP

TaraPaul2 · December 2014

We are ordering cupcakes for our wedding, 3 flavors, and my fiancee really wants to ask on the RSVP which flavor people want so we order the correct number of each one, based on what people say. We are having a buffet, so we don't need to know which entree people want.

I guess I don't care that much, but when I have told people about the cupcake flavor RSVP, they think it's kind of weird because when they get there, they might pick a different flavor anyway, they might think that they HAVE to pick one flavor, and since we aren't asking which entree they want, they might be confused as to why we are asking about dessert, like maybe it's a dessert only reception, when we are having a buffet dinner.

I asked the cupcake baker what she thought and she had never heard of RSVP'ing for cupcake flavors.

He really, really wants to do the RSVP thing though, so maybe it's not an important thing to insist on, but I also don't want guests confused or weirded out.

Any opinions would be helpful!

princessofgenovia · December 2014

If it were just a cake and punch wedding, I think I'd be ok with it. But...I'd be confused if I was getting a dinner but only had to pick what desert I wanted before hand.

theartistformerlyknownas · December 2014

I would think that was really strange, and that you were rationing cupcakes, and that would make me preemptively sad about cupcake regret.

You should order more cupcakes than you have guests to account for not knowing (or needing to control) specifically who gets which flavor. So say you have 100 guests, I'd probably order 40 of each flavor for a 20% buffer. Or if it's two standard flavors and one odd-ball, like chocolate, vanilla and lemon coconut or something, I'd do 50/50/20.

Maggie0829 · December 2014

I think this is really weird. Typically when it comes to desserts you have enough so that each person can have at least one piece/slice. So I would order X number of cupcakes plus an extra 50% (that way you have 1.5 cupcakes per person...some will eat two or more while others won't eat any at all) in your 3 flavors (so 1/3 of cupcakes in one flavor, 1/3 in another, and 1/3 in the last flavor).

climbingsingle · December 2014

I would think it's strange.

mikenberger · December 2014

I appreciate the effort, but some people aren't going to like any option of cupcake. Don't kill yourself over it. Just make the choice for the guests. They can either have a cupcake or not.

kat1114 · December 2014

We did cupcakes for our wedding and had 4 flavors. We had 75 guests, so we ordered 25 of each flavor. I would think it was weird to have to RSVP with my cupcake flavor if asked

lyndausvi · December 2014

Even if someone does RSVP a flavor it does not stop them from taking a different flavor, nor does it stop them from taking more than 1 cupcake. There are many who will take more than one flavor.

I'm not sure your flavors, but I would split the evenly then add 20% or maybe even more.. If you are picking something like chocolate, vanilla and a random "unusual" flavor I would up the chocolate and vanilla and lower the other flavor.

sarawifenow · December 2014

Yeah that is really odd.

atlastmrsg · December 2014

Odd and unnecessary.

And yes--some people will try more than one cupcake if they're out on a spread.

I did not want anything handled at my wedding--so all appetizers were passed (no mauled fruit and cheese display), dinners were plated (no drippy buffet), and the cupcakes were at the place settings (no picked over tiers). In my situation, everyone got one because one large cupcake was sitting at the table for them. Unless you serve the cupcakes, you should order over your guest number.

And as for the flavors, just order an assortment. If all the vanilla ones go first and someone doesn't get one, they'll live. Just make sure the assortment has flavors people like. If it's 1/4 vanilla, 1/4 chocolate, 1/4 banana-peanut butter-bacon, and 1/4 vegan chai granola, you'd better believe that those vanilla and chocolate will disappear fast and there will be some disappointed guests. If it/s 1/3 chocolate, 1/3 vanilla, 1/3 strawberry or whatever, people will live.

MandyMost · December 2014

I think it would be fine (if a bit quirky) if you were going to have he cupcakes served. You'd have to indicate on the place setting or whatever which cupcake everyone ordered, so the right person got the right cupcake.

It's absurd to ask what flavors people want and then have a buffet.

wrigleyville · December 2014

We had cupcakes at our wedding, and many people had 2-3. They liked trying different flavors (and that was one of the reasons we had cupcakes instead of cake).

I would ditch the idea. People are going to forget what they chose, they might want to try a different flavor, they might want multiple cupcakes, etc.

STARMOON44 · December 2014

No. You solve this by ordering extra. Weird.

jacques27 · December 2014

Don't do this. Really. Don't. Just don't.

Use this cupcake calculator to figure out what to order: http://calculate-this.com/how-many-cupcakes-person-calculator to figure out the amount and then divide it by 3 and order that many of each flavor.

JoanE2012 · December 2014

I would find this very strange.

Jen4948 · December 2014

I'd think it was strange to do this with dessert as opposed to the main course. To be honest, I'd either just get one flavor of cupcake or get the same number of cupcakes in each flavor and just put them out at dessert time, letting each guest choose for him/herself. I'd also have some other desserts available for any guests who cannot or will not eat cupcakes for whatever reason.

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