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Why does it feel like Tuesday?

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edited December 2014 in Wedding Woes
I'm glad it's Thursday, but I hate that my days feel all backwards.

I have started getting up and getting in bed with DefConn for 10-20 min prior to our wake-up time.  He usually curls in and snuggles with me, but today he decided to go perpendicular and kick me the whole time.  Goober. 

Today is my baby sis's bday.  We're having a surprise bday party for her on Saturday.  She has no clue.  She thinks she's coming to watch my kids.  BIL is going along with this and she's PISSED.  She still thinks her H should be/is planning the surprise party.  We need to get BIL a little something for putting up with her ass this week.  She's been a terror. 

Oh and fuck fuck fuckity fuck some cancer.  My grandma has breast cancer.  She's likely having a mastectomy ASAP (lumpectomy is being discussed, but not likely).  It's scary considering her age and other health issues (heart probs).  My mom is a mess.  :(  If everything goes OK with the surgery and recovery, I think I'm going to try and get down there for a long weekend in early 2015.  I'll probably go by myself and/or see if one of my sisters wants to go.  But no kids or husbands.  We'll rent a car and just hang out.  If we have a car and come alone, I hope they'll feel less stress about 'hosting' us.  
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  • tawillerstawillers member
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    Sorry about your gma, conn.  ::hugs::

    We're going to Disney on Ice tonight.  The girls are bouncing off the walls.

    My only goal for the day is to spend my Kohl's cash.
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  • DixieNormous330DixieNormous330 member
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    I'm sorry, conn. ~big hugs with a side of PF open-mouthed kisses~

    Tonight PF and I have dinner plans with 2 of my friends from work. I'm so beyond excited. And PF seems to have the hots for one of them. She makes serious goo-goo eyes at him.

    @Tawillers - we took PF to see Frozen on Ice last week. She loved every second of it and danced and sang through the whole thing.
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  • GBCKGBCK member
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    fuck cancer.

    I will have hit my 40 hours at the end of today, but I have an event tomorrow--100 middle schoolers and dissections, YAY!
    Normally this event happens in April, but we got bumped this year.  Which works, they'll still have fun.  Although WHY must we always do eyeballs?
    I dislike eyeballs.
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    I'm so sorry about your grandma.
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  • HeffalumpHeffalump member
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    Vibes for your grandma, mrs.conn.  And fuck cancer, for real.

    I am so lucky, both of my kids are snugglers.  DS woke up at 5:30 this morning.  I was too tired to actually do anything so I just brought him in bed with us, and he curled up like a cat.  (A cat who likes to play with my hair, but still.)

    Mr. Heff is still sick, and had to spend 3 hrs on a conf call yesterday.  THREE. EARTH. HOURS.  Hell, I'm perfectly healthy and that would have done me in.  He is working from home again today, and I'm concerned that he really does need to get to bed, not spend hours debating how often the $/Euro exchange rate needs to be updated in their forecast models. 

    When DH called to wish FIL a happy birthday yesterday, FIL said that he wants DD to visit them for a few days over the summer.  Like, just her.  The helicoptery part of me (that I try very hard to stifle) is all "Hell no!" for reasons ranging from DH's stories of FIL's crappy parenting, to the fact that DD has a very sensitive artist temperament, whereas FIL is pure redneck.  Not that there's anything wrong with that, but when he shoots squirrels out of trees from his deck with a BB gun vs. DD bursts into tears when she sees a dead deer on the side of the road, I see potential conflict.  But I'm leaning toward going for it.  Honestly, I think sMIL will do 90% of the work, so the crappy parenting probably won't be an issue, and it would be good for DD to know more of her extended family.

    Probably.

    Maybe.

    Speaking of summer, did you know that Space Camp had a Cyber Monday sale?  We are counting the months until we can send DH and DD to Family Space Camp.  You have to be 7, so they can't go until next summer.  But it's on the horizon.
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    DixieNormous330 said:


    @Tawillers - we took PF to see Frozen on Ice last week. She loved every second of it and danced and sang through the whole thing.
    I don't think Frozen came here.  I did hear about it and wished it came close.  We've taken them to Disney on Ice every year since DD1 was 1 and I was pregnant with DD2.  They love it.
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  • MNNEBrideMNNEBride member
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    Conn - so sorry about your Grandma.  F*** cancer indeed.

    It's been a week here.  DH has 50 hours in already and is running on fumes.  Poor guy - and he's really really moody.  Fun times all around.

    PLUS - my sister's biopsy came back inconclusive because they didn't get a sample of what they saw. Radiologist wants her to do another (same technique - same everything).  Her ob/gyn said no way and is sending her to see a surgeon today for a consult on doing a bx under general anesthesia.  I'm trying to convince her to come here (major medical center) for a second opinion, but she isn't going to do that.   
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    FWP: I swore off Kohls this year because holiday shipping has been horrid.  I did get theBlack Friday Target gift card deal.  Rumor has it they are requiring signature for delivery and mine haven't even shipped yet!  These were supposed to round out my teacher gifts and niece gifts so I need them next week.

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    tawillers said:
    Sorry about your gma, conn.  ::hugs::

    We're going to Disney on Ice tonight.  The girls are bouncing off the walls.

    My only goal for the day is to spend my Kohl's cash.
    apparently Kohl's cash never expires (despite the expiration date printed on the coupon) so don't force yourself to use it just because of the date - unless they have changed their policies since june/july (you might want to confirm on that) - this summer, they let me use Kohl's cash that was a year old - they scanned it and there was still an available balance, so they applied it without any argument. 

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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    I've heard mixed reviews on Kohl's cash.  There was a big push this fall to stop taking expired ones.

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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    Way to go Barbie!  Congrats!
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  • tawillerstawillers member
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    They do expire now.  My Kohl's won't take expired cash and neither will my mom's.
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    Awesome job Barbie. 


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  • PMeg819PMeg819 member
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    Morning.

    Fuck cancer. Fuck a lot of things. I'm in a slump. I finally had to come clean with DH last night about how bad some of my mental issues are which resulted in more anxiety and an inability to sleep. I've been trying to make appointments with doctors but it's been impossible. The list of psychiatrists I was given by my insurance company is pretty useless; the docs are either not taking new patients or are so booked up I can't get an appointment until March. So DH basically told me to call whoever I wanted and we will cash pay. How sad is it that I'd have to commit myself to get help because I'd have to wait 4-5 months otherwise? And this whole mess just makes me feel like a piece of shit.

    Last night my ILs came over for dinner. They brought gifts for DS and DD which was nice, but a lot of them were religious and that irritates me. We used to let it slide but they send this shit, then it's me and DH who have to explain it and deal with it. I don't like that. Plus, MIL does not believe in evolution. She thinks the Earth is like 6000 years old. While reading a book on dinosaurs, she told DS that this "wasn't a very good book and it's wrong". So between the praying, the bible stories, and everything else I end up hearing about heaven and Jesus for weeks on end.
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  • NOLABridesmaidNOLABridesmaid member
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    MNN, a second opinion sounds like the way to go to me too, but she has to do what feels right to her.
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    MNNE- I agree a second opinion sounds good, but she probably trusts her doctor.  I hope she gets good and healthy answers soon.
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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    Man, I'm so sorry for what you guys are going through.  

    Fvck cancer all around.

    PMeg, I'm really glad you are able to recognize it and get help.  Like, really glad.  I've got a friend who is dealing with suicidal ideation and it's leaving me feeling pretty damn helpless.  He's getting help and I just do what I can to support him.  IDK if you read any bloggers, but a good atheist blogger who writes about his mental illness (and right now his wife is writing about her experience in dealing with him with mental illness) is JT Eberhard: http://www.patheos.com/blogs/wwjtd/.  At this point I just want to applaud anyone who is strong enough to seek help, so consider me a huge damn cheerleader in your corner, ribbon wands, glitter cannons, and everything.  Also, pick up Dawkin's "Magic of Reality".  It's beautifully illustrated and explains evolution on a kid level.  In a weird way, DH and I coming out to his parents re: our atheism made them silent on the issue 90% of the time.  The other 10% is somewhat subtle, but I can wave it off.

    I'm dragging out work.  I don't really feel like asking for more work, but I need some.  I'll drag this out until next week and then the e-mail deluge will start re: give me work.
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    *Throws hat in the "FVCK Cancer" ring*

    I am having a day today.  One of those days when everyone seems to want something, no one wants to go in one direction and my printer decided it hates me and doesn't want to cooperate.  So now I want to eat my weight in doritos, peace out and just stare at my Kindle.

    Also, H planned a surprise outing for me, and it had to be postponed.  I know that is totally FWP, but wahh anyway.
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    PMEG- I agree with V, but she says things best. It takes a lot of strength and courage to admit that you need more help and to look for it.  Please be kind to yourself.
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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    PMeg, I know you want to protect your children and that's admirable.  

    More importantly though, you getting help means you're setting an example that mental illness is not something to be ashamed of and hide; it's something to get help for and work on.  I can't imagine how scared you must feel; I do think kids are better served at later ages when they know that their parents aren't perfect and their parents are working on being better, no just letting problems sit there.  You've talked a lot on here about your relationship with your mother, I think, who ignored your problems.  You know you won't do that to your kids and more importantly, they know you won't do that to them either.  You're being an really good mother, truly.
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    ((PMeg))  We're here for you.  ((more interwebz hugs))
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    I agree it is important for kids to see their parents taking care of themselves.  You are showing your strength.  Your husband is also setting a good example on how to support a spouse.
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  • *Barbie**Barbie* member
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    PMeg - I don't know if you have an EAP with your job (or your husband with his), but they may be able to make some recs for doctors in your area, help you get an appointment sooner, or they may cover a bulk of the cost if you need to go out of network. I'm glad you're able to discuss what you're feeling with your husband, and know that you need additional help. 
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    Yes, hugs.
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