Hey there! Hope you're having a lovely day :-)
Our wedding is going to be his second and my first. They didn't do a lot of the things that we are planning to do that to me are traditional wedding type things (engagement photos, save the dates, honeymoon, cake tastings, etc.) so I'm glad we still get a good amount of the "first time" moments. One of those "first time" moments will be involving his sons. They are 10 and 12 (they'll be 10 and 13 by the wedding) and - as expected / normal - being influenced a lot by their mom. Talking with us, they're excited. They bring it up, talk to others about it, etc. However, their mom has come to us a couple times now saying that she thinks they'd be "less anxious" if she were there (this started when we were still 7-8 months out). She keeps asking them if they're nervous which is enough to make anyone think they should be worried! They still seem excited but I'm afraid it's going to get worse as time goes on.
I know we can't change that behavior so I'm looking for advice to mitigate this. Anyone have any experience on how to make this an event to look forward to for a couple of pre-teens without turning our day into a totally kid-focused party? Anything we should do leading up to it all?
Sorry for the super general question... I still feel a little lost here but want to learn some more and be able to do my part!