Do the FOB and groom's suits/tuxes have to match?

Re: Do the FOB and groom's suits/tuxes have to match?

• JoanE2012 member

  

  December 2014

  Generally speaking, the FOB does not have to match the groomsman.  I would find it a bit strange, however, for the FOB to be dressed better than the groom.  I would have your father match the level of formality of your groom.

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• Viczaesar member

  

  December 2014

  No, they don't have to match.  The parents of the bride and groom choose what they want to wear; it has nothing to do with your wedding party attire.
  

  
  
  
  

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• vulpiepop member

  

  December 2014

  No, they don't have to match but it'd be a little odd for your dad to wear a tux while your groom is wearing a suit.

  
  

  

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• redheadbride15 member

  

  December 2014

  I had a similar dilemma. My fiancee was buying a suit and really wanted to wear charcoal grey, but my father's best suit is navy (and it would be unlike my father to buy a new suit specially for this occasion). We don't have a bridal party, so they're really the only "important" men in the wedding. In the end I'm just letting them both wear what they want and they'll both have boutonnieres.
  

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• southernbelle0915 mod

  

  December 2014

  Nope. He can wear whatever he wants. But I agree with Joan he should not exceed for formality of the groom.

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• amelisha member

  

  December 2014

  I think traditionalists would side-eye this for sure because of what the above posters said, that the groom normally isn't less formal than the WP or guests or family.

  
  

  Here's my probably unpopular opinion, though...
  

  
  

  Ultimately, the FOB is a guest and as such he is allowed to wear whatever he wants. My FFIL is going to be more formally dressed than my FI at our wedding for sure because he's just that kind of guy. He loves dressing up and he LOVES his fanciest suits. I don't mind at all and neither does FI (who is probably just going to wear one of his work suits with the vest and no jacket because that's how he's comfortable.) 

  
  

  FFIL is going to look more dressed up because FI will be essentially be in his shirtsleeves but it's not going to impact my day and they're both going to be happy, so it works for me. For that matter, MY dad is probably going to be in athletic shoes and a Hawaiian shirt, knowing him...but oh well. I love them all anyway and I'd rather they be who they are even if they don't "match" FI and I.

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  December 2014

  Personally, I would think it was weird if the FIL was more formal then the Groom and his GMs.  In the end though your Dad can wear whatever he wants.  Now if your Dad asks "What do you think about me wearing my tux?" you can tell him your thoughts.  As long as he is happy and comfortable then that is all that matters.

  
  

  And for what its worth, a 3 piece suit is pretty darn dapper so for your Dad to be in a tux, I really don't think it will be that much of a noticeable difference between the two.

  
  

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• CMGragain member

  

  December 2014 edited December 2014

  Your father will be overdressed if he wears a tuxedo when everyone else is wearing a suit.  A tuxedo is a different level of formality than a suit.  Encourage him to wear a suit.
  

  

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