People pleaser + can't be single = this mess
Dear Prudie,
Two years ago, I was cheating on my boyfriend and left him for another man, who I felt was a better fit. My then-boyfriend, who was completely loyal to me, was blindsided. The new man had more experience with kids and came from the same socioeconomic background that I did. We’ve been dating seriously ever since, but it still gnaws at me that I really hurt someone who cared about me. He was the first person I dated after my divorce, and he helped give me a renewed sense of purpose. Then I hurt him. I’ve tried to reach out to him a few times and gotten no reply. It kills me that I let him down and broke his trust, especially when I knew he was vulnerable. Is it fair to keep reaching out to someone I hurt but still care about? And is it potentially hurtful to my current relationship to have part of my heart tangled up with the past guy? I just want to talk with the old boyfriend one more time to try and make him understand—but I don’t know how to do it. Can you help?
—Tangled Up
Re: People pleaser + can't be single = this mess
Selfish jerk.
Huh, I detect...a pattern.