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I hate my nonrefundable, nonreturnable wedding dress...

Dear Prudence,
I am getting married in March and I was fortunate to have my mother (who lives out of state), maid of honor, and future mother-in-law accompany me to my wedding dress shopping. When I narrowed down the choice to the final two, my guests all agreed that one option was better than the other and I decided to go with their vote. Now, I regret not getting the other dress. When I look at the pictures they took of me wearing the dress I bought, I feel almost physically ill. But the dress is not refundable or returnable and it would be a huge blow to our budget to buy a second dress (at a rush no less) and what would I do with the first one? I’ve been having sleepless nights thinking about how unhappy I am going to be when I look at myself in the mirror on my wedding day and look at the pictures later. I can’t stop thinking that all my guests are going to be whispering behind my back about how dated and frumpy I’ll look. Other than this issue, my wedding planning has been fine so I don’t think I’m being a bridezilla. What should I do?

—Bridal Gown Not to Be

Re: I hate my nonrefundable, nonreturnable wedding dress...

  • Oh, FFS. I hated my dress, too. I was so frustrated with it being too big, and having to alter, and all the time I spent on the trimmings, and it was just going to look stupid, and why did I bother? 

    And you know what? I wore it. And when I look at the pictures, I love it. She's having wedding stress and it's all focused on that one thing, but she needs to get over herself. 
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  • IMO - Sell the thing for a loss on ebay, go online and find the dress she wanted and order it. 

    My biggest regret is not doing that because the shop led me to believe (suckered me) if I didn't order my dress that week it wouldn't be there in time for the wedding.  I look at my wedding pictures and think how much I hated that dress but back then there was no such thing as just cutting your loss and get one you do like instead or being a "two dress bride"..

  • I can't believe it to be frumpy as she says if she had three people who love her give her an opinion.  I can see maybe if she only had the older generation helping her pick a dress, but her MOH is possibly her own age - would she have let her pick a "frumpy" dress?  I bet the dress is gorgeous and as PP said, she is just stressed from the wedding.
    Did I love my wedding dress?  Not really.  Did I wish a had a different one for my wedding day?  Yeah.  Do I look at my pictures and think how crappy I look?  No, I look great - a dress is a dress, and the one I picked was pretty, it just wasn't what I was looking for at first. 

  • :::grumble, grumble, grumble:::  I hated my dress and 8+ years later, I still don't like to look at my wedding pictures and have never watched the wedding video.  In my opinion is that she should sell the dress and buy a new one.
  • AuntFlo said:
    :::grumble, grumble, grumble:::  I hated my dress and 8+ years later, I still don't like to look at my wedding pictures and have never watched the wedding video.  In my opinion is that she should sell the dress and buy a new one.
    LTNS @AuntFlo!!!  You aren't alone!  For our 10th I purchased a BEAUTIFUL red formal since we were going away on a couple's weekend with the plan to wear it the night of our actual anniversary...  Then my DH (the D was not DEAR that night) decided we had to go on a road trip excursion some place and wouldn't listen to me that we didn't have time for such things because I needed time to get my hair done and dressed.  Yea - the red dress that I spent quite a chunk of change on is still yet to be worn - and I'm still peeved about that (especially with where it was he took me)...
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