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Issues with photographer. Advice needed!

Okay, so my fiance and I had our engagement photos done back in September. I heard great things about the photographer we used, and all of her pictures that i had looked at were really great. Well, I booked her for our wedding before getting our engagement proofs back because I had emailed a few other good photographers in town but they were already booked.

Well, we got our engagement proofs back and they are not anything spectacular and I'm just not really impressed by them. I'm hoping that when they are edited they look better. But like I said, I already booked her for the wedding and paid the deposit (which was not cheap at all.) So that's a major sticking point for me because I obviously want our wedding photos to be special.

But what is making me nervous even more than that is that she is on the verge of a nervous breakdown that might put her out of the photography business. I am FB friends with both her personal and professional pages. She is a very free spirit from what I've gathered from our photoshoot and her facebook pages. She has talked about moving, but I've never chalked that up to anything more than wishful dreaming. But for the past month or so, she has been posting statuses that are just over-the-top and crazy (Some of my friends also have her as a FB friend and told me she never used to be this way.) However, this morning she posted a really long "apology" status on her personal and professional pages about all of these personal issues that seem to be intervening in her professional work and how her profession is taking away from time with her kids and just all of this other stuff. She didn't say anything about quitting her business, but I worry that she is going to go off the deep end and I'm going to be left without a photographer for my wedding.

I don't know what to do because I already paid the deposit and signed the contract. I won't get any of that money back if I choose to opt out. On the other hand, I worry that I'm not going to be able to find another photographer should something happen.

What would you do? Advice is much appreciated!

Re: Issues with photographer. Advice needed!

  • I'd be nervous as hell too. Photographers really need to be one of your most reliable vendors. It's a big job with a lot of post-wedding work, and there's a lot at stake.

    Is your deposit so huge that you can't call it a 'peace of mind' fee and just walk and hire someone else while you have options? You can try to hire a slighty cheaper photog, or buy a few less photos, opt for a cheaper/smaller package, gift fewer/no pictures, to defray what you lost in the deposit.

    If she goes out of business, so to speak, you could try to ask for your deposit back. Heck, even if you back out, you can ask all sugar sweet anyway and see what you can manage. Symbolically, it might be a little more freedom and get her life bavk where she wants it (one less job hanging over her head). Contract shmontract, sometimes.
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    I'd be nervous as hell too. Photographers really need to be one of your most reliable vendors. It's a big job with a lot of post-wedding work, and there's a lot at stake. Is your deposit so huge that you can't call it a 'peace of mind' fee and just walk and hire someone else while you have options? You can try to hire a slighty cheaper photog, or buy a few less photos, opt for a cheaper/smaller package, gift fewer/no pictures, to defray what you lost in the deposit. If she goes out of business, so to speak, you could try to ask for your deposit back. Heck, even if you back out, you can ask all sugar sweet anyway and see what you can manage. Symbolically, it might be a little more freedom and get her life bavk where she wants it (one less job hanging over her head). Contract shmontract, sometimes.

    This is what I would do too. She wants less work, and you don't want her to take your pictures. Win win.

    Also, what is it that you didn't like about the engagement pictures? Was it things that would be edited? Or poses and artistic shots? I didn't like my engagment pictures either, but it was more because it was super hot that day and my makeup was mostly gone. My wedding pictures were much better.

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  • What about PMing her since she's on your IRL friends list, and say holy heck it sounds like you've got a lot going on and want to ease up on the work load.  You know, since we're this far out would you consider a split on our contract and that'd free up one weekend for you because it sounds like you've got just so much going on and that'd be a way to help ease things up for you.."

    Lay the sugar on thick that it's a "hey, we're this far out and would have time to find a new photographer would that help a little???" (without a word of your apprehensions..)

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