Too young?

VulgarGirl · December 2014

SIL is coming to stay with us this weekend, yay! Remember SIL is 7.

So one of my buddies is part of a small drag show tomorrow. It's all ages as it is not being held at a bar. And it's Christmas themed.

Is there any reason SIL is too young to go to a drag show? Cause I'm really thinking we should take her. She's seen our friends and one of her dads in drag before. So it's not like she's never seen drag queens.

But I feel like if internet strangers friends back my idea it'd actually be a good idea.

princessleia22 · December 2014

If the parents approve her going, I don't see why not.

wandajune6 · December 2014

How late does it start? If it's going long after her bed time, expect a meltdown.

Beyond that, I'd say that it depends on your niece. If she's been exposed to drag before, she might have a blast. If not, you might want to give her a primer first- explain what she's about to see, etc. In my family, the biggest issues would be bedtimes and snacks whereas DH's nieces and nephews would be less open.

ETA: I know that she's seen people in drag before, I just know that shows are different.

carrie0924 · December 2014

Ask her parents... It sounds like one of her parents might do drag shows. They will be an expert on what they are comfortable with their daughter seeing. Drag shows are a blast! My only concern would be how much exposure she would have to overt sexuality and how much would her parents like or dislike that? ie, are they of the mindset that one should NOT be ashamed of their bodies and that it's okay to show some skin in the appropriate setting. Or would they rather their daughter learn that at what they see is a more age appropriate rate? If that makes sense.... I'm not a parent. I'm trying to put myself in the context of what is appropriate to show a 7 year old. I'd probably be more worried about the over sexuality of a drag show more so than the actual "men and women dressing in non gender normative clothing" aspect. I think children SHOULD learn that it is okay to like pink and dresses if you are a boy, and vice versa.

lacqueredlover · December 2014

Definitely ask her parents. Drag shows can have a LOT of innuendo so be prepared for a lot of questions if you do take her. My 7 year old step son picks up on so much shit, it's ridiculous haha.

If I knew that it was kid appropriate (like that there wouldn't be a drag queen with just a christmas tree over their man bits or something like that) then I would say sounds great!

beethery · December 2014

It's all about timing and I'd ask your friend what the joke level is going to be. I'd say if the innuendo is going to go beyond like... Shrek level, maybe figure something else out.

Fun story: When I was about 4 or 5, we had MTV. Mom and I were sitting in the living room and the B-52's 'Love Shack' video came on. We both loved the song, so I was very excited to watch it. Apparently, I said, "Mommy, who is that tall lady with the big hair?"

She informed me that that was RuPaul. I've been a big fan ever since, and when I told RuPaul that story, he got SUPER excited and then thanked me for reminding him that he's old lol

Couggal12 · December 2014

I would ask her parents. I went to a drag show for my bachelorette party. It was all dancing and lip singing and I don't think it was inappropriate for a 7 year old at all.

lyndausvi · December 2014

Other vote for ask the in-laws.

Being a drag show isn't the problem to me, but the content of the show. There are some non-drag shows that I would not take a 7 year old too. So as long as your in-laws are cool, go for it.

larrygaga · December 2014

Well as long as nobody is doing cocaine out of a strippers bellybutton I don't see the harm. She might as well get exposed to it, because its a real thing!!! Have a blast!

sarawifenow · December 2014

Yeah definitely double check with her parents first. If they say it is ok, then I say go for it! Why the hell not?

VulgarGirl · December 2014

I'll ask the FILs when they drop her off tonight.

It starts at 7pm, goes until 10 or so. We'd probably leave early, SIL is a freaking nigh owl though. She doesn't go to bed until 9:30 or 10 on weeknights. Closer to midnight on non-school nights. Been like that forever. I think that's why we get along so well.

WinstonsGirl · December 2014

beethery said:

It's all about timing and I'd ask your friend what the joke level is going to be. I'd say if the innuendo is going to go beyond like... Shrek level, maybe figure something else out.

Fun story: When I was about 4 or 5, we had MTV. Mom and I were sitting in the living room and the B-52's 'Love Shack' video came on. We both loved the song, so I was very excited to watch it. Apparently, I said, "Mommy, who is that tall lady with the big hair?"

She informed me that that was RuPaul. I've been a big fan ever since, and when I told RuPaul that story, he got SUPER excited and then thanked me for reminding him that he's old lol

I love RuPaul. Best supermodel ever

ETA - For me, it depends on the content of the show. Too much sexual innuendo would make it inappropriate in my mind.

drunkenwitch · December 2014

If it's billed as kid friendly, her parents give the okay and won't keep her out super late (tired kids are cranky kids. Hell, tired Drunkenwitch is cranky Drunkenwitch) then I say go for it.

Definitely check with her parents, I firmly believe that parents always get the final say in what young kids are exposed to (I may not agree with a rule a parent has for their kid, but I'll respect it).

ETA, love me some Drag Queens. I live in Seattle and see Mamma Tits whenever I can.

Kahlyla · December 2014

Oh man, my five-year-old son would probably LOVE a drag show. He loves costumes, sparkly things, rainbows, performances, music, watching people dance, adults laughing and having fun with him, etc. I would take him to one if it ended early enough and was age-appropriate, that's all I can say.

sophhabobopha · December 2014

Do it gurl

CMGragain · December 2014

I would check about the rating of the show. I have known drag queen shows that feature strippers (male) that would not be suitable for any child. Other than that, I see no reason to object.

VulgarGirl · December 2014

So in case anyone is wondering, we did in fact end up going and taking SIL, FILs were cool with it. They were mostly upset they weren't going.

There was a little innuendo but all of it went right over her head. Like ya know they do in kid's movies that you don't figure out until you're an adult because it was a little nod and wink for the grown ups in the audience. And there were some "naughty Santas", just shirtless guys in Santa pants. She's seen shirtless men.

It might have gotten naughtier as the night wore on, we left just before 9 to go look at Christmas lights.

Two of the drag queens brought her up on stage and she got a kick out of that. Child loves being a star.

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