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justbeingme93 · December 2014

AuroraRose41 · December 2014

I think I have read this article too! Most of the ones on that site for girls who are waiting like us are good at putting things in perspective.

Also, I completely understand. I had a lot of thoughts run through my head last week over Thanksgiving about why he hadn't done it. And honestly, I am still a little annoyed that it didn't happen then for a few reasons, but I know he will do it when he is ready, and I know that he does intend to marry me, which is all I need right now.

If you ever need or want to chat with someone who is in a similar position, feel free to PM me

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TeaCee · December 2014

I can totally identify with you! Thank you for being so thoughtful and posting that snippit for others that are dealing with patience in this matter. One thing I have to constantly remind myself of is that everyday we wake up and choose to be together, no matter what everyone else says. Just because our relationship doesn't involve a signed contract (yet!) doesn't diminish our level of love or commitment. It just means that we have had other things that were of more immediate importance to worry about in life. My boyfriend and I actually do have somewhat differing opinions on marriage and he doesn't hold it in as high regard as myself. Our conversations about getting married have been very civil and informative, on both ends, and he is seeing that in order for me to be comfortable moving forward with our relationship, such as, buying a house, potentially starting a family, etc., I feel that it is important to sign that contract. He says he has always thought about marrying me, but just didn't place it in the "of utter importance" box in his brain! I truly am not one to give ultimatums or push the issue, but after we reached the 6 year mark, I started getting very discouraged and would question his love for me ("HOW could he possibly love me if he doesn't see that this IS important to me" "Maybe I'm not the one like everyone talks about" "What am I waiting around for if he doesn't want to lock it down?") After a couple of melt-downs, which I'm sure didn't help my arguement at all, I had to come to the realization that I was letting society and other people's projection of MY relationship alter my view of my love. Did I really feel "unloved"? No, not really. Was I suddenly unhappy in our relationship after 6 years? No, not that either. So I talked myself down off the proverbial ledge and reminded myself that just because we hit the 6 year mark and there was still no ring, that did not define me as a "hopeless romantic" just waiting with bated breath for the question to be popped. We were still the same people, with the same (or more intense, really) feelings for each other. So in Taylor Swift's words, I just had to shake it off. Now that the 7 year mark has come and gone, I feel that we are definitely closer to signing that contract, and some planning has started, mostly with ideas and colors and lists, but still, there is no ring. Of course I still have to ward off the occasional comments from friends, family and co-workers, but, honestly, I just had to stop caring what everyone else's misinformed opinions were about our relationship. The big day is tentatively planned for the end of 2015 and will be an exciting affair with our closest friends and family. And if I hear just one "finally" the whole night I may just Hulk out and go bridezilla on the whole party! (Just kidding...kinda)

lifeisajourney · December 2014

That was a perfect quote. Thanks for sharing. I have a few friends I need to pass that on to.

morewineplease · December 2014

Thanks for posting that. I needed that to back off the ledge. After being together for over 7 years, and this summer being told he is shopping for the ring I am crawling out of my skin to see what is for Christmas, and trying not to get my hopes too high.

chloe97 · December 2014

Love it! That was me up until last week - I got engaged on Sunday!! I spent 3 months to a year being intermittently depressed and angry that he was taking so long to propose. There were times that I was absolutely sure it was going to happen and then it didn't. There were serious conversations about timelines that I knew he heard, but I was super scared he wasn't going to follow through on. Bottom line, you don't get to control your proposal. And for ladies who are used to being in control of so many aspects of their lives, it's tough.

Now that we have had time to debrief on that period in my life, I take comfort in knowing that he was really thinking about it all the time. Even if it doesn't seem like it. He wants it to be perfect and he wants to make you happy. And in the end it will be and you will be happy. Just keep rereading that quote, I wish I had read it a year ago!!!

mrsgptobe · December 2014

Engagement announcements and ring photos have been popping up all over my FB newsfeed lately.. It's been upsetting me a little. I really thought it was going to happen a couple weekends ago when we took a trip, but it did not. :-(

Filorican · December 2014

That was so beautiful!! Thank you for posting that

We are all waiting for that special moment, for that one breath taking moment where our heart stops and we mutter yes trying to hold back our tears. The moment which we constantly think about and wonder how it might occur. I'm (im)patiently waiting as well

The perfect time will come with time

lunardaydreaming · December 2014

I swear, I was very (im)patiently waiting, worked on letting go of that, didn't think about it much for almost a year and it happened. Hang in there @futuremrsgp, that used to get me too. You moment will come

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