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Uneven party...but my Mom sitting by herself?

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So after reading all of these uneven party posts I am starting to question why I am not asking my brother to be in my bridal party. My MOH is my best friend, and then my two sisters are my bridesmaids. My FI best man is his best friend and his brother is his groomsman. My Dad is a minister and is doing the ceremony, but if all of my family is up there with me my Mom will be sitting by herself.

While I want to honor my brother, and I already asked him to do a reading, I don't want my Mom to feel like she is alone on my wedding day. She will have my Grandma (her mother) beside her though.

What do you think?

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Re: Uneven party...but my Mom sitting by herself?

  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    I really doubt your mom will feel alone on your wedding day if the rest of your immediate family is standing up with you.  It isn't like it will just be her in a row and no one else.  I honestly think you are over thinking this.

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  • NYCMercedesNYCMercedes member
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    Ask her about it. Maybe she has a sibling she'd like to join her in the front row.
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    Maggie0829 said:
    I really doubt your mom will feel alone on your wedding day if the rest of your immediate family is standing up with you.  It isn't like it will just be her in a row and no one else.  I honestly think you are over thinking this.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    I agree that you are overthinking this, but if your dad is officiating, could your mom and brother escort you down the aisle?
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  • delujm0delujm0 member
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    this happened to us kind of...my husband's sister was a bridesmaid, and her husband was a groomamsn, and his father was his best man.  my sister was a BM and my dad walked me down the aisle.  we felt bad that the mom's didn't have a function, so we did a unity candle ceremony to include them.  i don't think they cared either way, but it made us feel better!  they didn't sit alone - they sat with grandparents.
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  • sarawifenowsarawifenow member
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    I am curious if your FI wants your brother on his side. You can certainly have him on your side as a bridesman, but you should not make it so that he is on your FI's side simply to have even sides. Also, your mom is not going to be alone...unless of course, there are no other guests.
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  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    Anyone can sit with your mom in the front row. 
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    I'm a mom. I would be so proud to see all of my family standing together that it wouldn't bother me a bit to sit in the front row alone. Plus, your mom won't be alone; her mom will be sitting with her. You could ask your mom if she would like to invited anyone else to sit with her in the front row.
                       
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    acgordon3 said:

    So after reading all of these uneven party posts I am starting to question why I am not asking my brother to be in my bridal party. My MOH is my best friend, and then my two sisters are my bridesmaids. My FI best man is his best friend and his brother is his groomsman. My Dad is a minister and is doing the ceremony, but if all of my family is up there with me my Mom will be sitting by herself.

    While I want to honor my brother, and I already asked him to do a reading, I don't want my Mom to feel like she is alone on my wedding day. She will have my Grandma (her mother) beside her though.

    What do you think?

    If your Mom has her mother sitting beside her, she is not sitting alone.  Most MOBs sit alone for the first half of the ceremony, anyway, since the FOB usually escorts the bride down the aisle.

    At my daughter's wedding, I might as well have been sitting alone!  DH is a photography nerd.  As soon as he sat down, he grabbed his camera and started taking pictures (without a flash).  When it was time for us to light the unity candle, he forgot all about it because he was so busy taking his damn pictures.  I had to hiss at him.  Seriously, I was so happy to see my daughter married that day, I didn't care about anything else.
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  • Lauderdale PinkLauderdale Pink member
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    At Jewish weddings, both sets of parents stand at the Chuppah with the bride and groom and bridal party.  Your mother could escort you down the aisle with your father and then remain standing.  Of course, to be equitable, you would have to offer this option to the grooms parents as well.  It is a very touching experience to have so many people standing with the happy couple.
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