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How to Address The Thank You Card

fallbride57fallbride57 member
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We were married a couple of weeks ago and are in the process of writing our thank you cards.  Any ideas on how to write in the card, given the following situation:  We invited our aunt and uncle, but only the aunt attended the wedding.  However, the card she gave at the wedding was from both of them.The thank you card will be addressed to both of them (they are married and live together). Normally, I would say something to the affect of "thank you for attending our wedding, it meant a lot to have you there"...etc...   I want to recognize how much it meant to us that she traveled so far to attend, but also not make the other one feel bad. Also, if I am saying "Dear Aunt/Uncle," on the card, it seems off to say thank you for attending when one of the persons it is addressed to did not attend... Obviously I will also be thanking them for the card and gift but just trying to figure out how to word the attendance part...Thoughts or ideas?
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Re: How to Address The Thank You Card

  • Simky906Simky906 member
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    I would start by thanking them for the lovely gift, saying how excited you are to use it, etc. The you can say something along the lines of- we loved seeing aunt at the wedding and hope we can catch up with uncle soon! 

    I think that makes sense but doesn't come off as 'guilting' uncle.
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  • jacques27jacques27 member
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    edited December 2014
    You write thank you cards for gifts, not for attendance at your wedding.  They both gave you the gift, so you address the card to both of them and thank them for the gift.

    Then, if you really want to tack it on to the end, you could do something at the end like the above "Aunt X, it was so lovely to see you.  Uncle Y, I hope we get a chance to visit and catch up soon." 

    Or, call Aunt X on the phone and tell her how much it meant to you and leave it completely out of the card altogether so the card is just addressing the thank you for the gift that it is intended for.  There's no reason why you can't communicate your appreciation for her traveling via means other than the thank you card.
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  • thisismynickname2thisismynickname2 member
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    jacques27 said:
    You write thank you cards for gifts, not for attendance at your wedding.  They both gave you the gift, so you address the card to both of them and thank them for the gift.

    Then, if you really want to tack it on to the end, you could do something at the end like the above "Aunt X, it was so lovely to see you.  Uncle Y, I hope we get a chance to visit and catch up soon." 

    Or, call Aunt X on the phone and tell her how much it meant to you and leave it completely out of the card altogether so the card is just addressing the thank you for the gift that it is intended for.  There's no reason why you can't communicate your appreciation for her traveling via means other than the thank you card.
    This is exactly how we handled it too, for an uncle that came and his wife that stayed home. 
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