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Received a wedding gift but not sure who it's from

Koukla509Koukla509 member
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edited December 2014 in Wedding Etiquette Forum
Hi All! I'm hoping for help on what to do. I'm in the process on writing our wedding thank you's. We have a gift that was given to us but there was no card in the gift bag or tag on it to say who it was from. We have a few people that did not give a gift - which I know is not an obligation of a wedding guest. But I want to know who left us the gift so that I can write them a thank you. I feel bad asking the people that didn't give us a gift if it's from them & it turns out that it's not. I don't want them to feel uncomfortable. I'm not sure what to do.
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Re: Received a wedding gift but not sure who it's from

  • allispainallispain member
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    One option would be to put out feelers through your families. We had one unmarked gift - my mom asked around on our behalf and we figured out who it was from that way. In our case, it was because some stuff got confused when gifts were getting packed up and brought back to the hotel from the venue - she briefly explained that and the fact that we wanted to make sure everyone got a thank you card.
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  • southernbelle0915southernbelle0915 mod
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    If it's from your registry, you might be able to go back to BBB or Macy's or wherever and see if they can help you.
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  • Koukla509Koukla509 member
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    I'm wondering if that's what happened with our stuff also when it was getting packed up. Thanks!

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  • Koukla509Koukla509 member
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    It wasn't from our registry either.

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  • littlemushroomlittlemushroom member
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    If you can, try to put out some feelers through family/friends to see if you can figure it out.

    In my case, I had it narrowed down to two people that our unidentified gift could have been from. Unfortunately, both of those people were ex coworkers/friends of mine and I was the only person at the wedding who knew them. Plus knowing what I do about their financial situations, I thought it highly likely that they would not have given a gift at all (which was totally fine but is why I didn't want to ask them).

    I ended up posting a general message on Facebook that I wanted to thank a person for the specific gift but it had no card and to PM me to let me know who it was from. It worked and it was from someone I had it narrowed down to. She said her husband had confessed to tearing the card off the gift and putting it in the card box.

    Generally, posting on Facebook is not a good idea. However, in my case it was my only option other than asking them myself or not sending a note at all. I decided Facebook was the lesser evil of the options, and in my case it worked out well.
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  • Koukla509Koukla509 member
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    Thanks a lot for your help! I know what you mean about posting on Facebook...I was saving that as a last resort also!
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