I've been with my guy for a year now. Because of where we live and busy work schedules, he's never met any of my family outside of my mother and closer relatives only know of him. We shopped and I picked out a ring back in July so clearly I've been waiting like hell for that ring so I could initiate the planning:)... So anyhow, I just got engaged, like YESTERDAY. We are going to a justice of the peace to marry in the next few weeks.
Months back, in a discussion we agreed to elope here in the states (NY) and have a traditional ceremony in his native country (in Africa) 2-3 months after, pay for immediate family to attend and inform all others (with the assumption only those who could afford would make it). Because of these things, I'd planned to have a huge, semi formal post marriage celebration in my hometown (GA) to introduce him to my family and friends sometime in Aug/Sep 2015.
So here's the gist of the problem. This past Sept. my cousin got engaged, I received the STD a couple weeks back for a destination wedding in June. My guy had no idea about her proposal by the way and I was assuming her wedding would be local. So it hadn't occurred to me until now that her plans may offset mine.
Even as I write this post I have yet to send out the obligatory 'I'm engaged!' mass text. Only my mom and brothers know and they feel I should do whatever I planned and let things occur as they will. I don't want to
A. overshadow my cousins big day by just showing up wearing a ring and we're already hitched and they are just meeting him, etc.
B. downplay MY big announcement/plans in anyway
C. Plan another large event that people may be too broke to travel to since the majority seemed to be planning to attend her wedding or
D. Hold off a party to celebrate our marriage that's so far away from the actual date it took place (i.e. new years or christmas time 2015, that's almost a year out).
I think there are just too many components but feel its compromising too much to change what I want/had planned. Am I overthinking this? What should I do? I need to ANNOUNCE it already I just don't want to create animosity or step on any toes. Thanks.