So my FI and I are getting married in October 2015 and we were talking to one of his sisters yesterday about the planning process. FI mentioned (and has mentioned before) that he thinks we should have a J&J rather than a traditional bridal shower because 1) we already live together and don't really need any gifts, 2) we don't like the "girls only" idea of a bridal shower, and 3) we're paying for the wedding ourselves and raising a little money would be helpful. Maybe I just don't really understand what a J&J is (I've never been to one!), but I'm not sure how I feel about essentially fundraising for our wedding... am I missing something here? His sister loves the idea and actually had one herself. What are your thoughts on a J&J?