What can I do with my bestfriend?

Re: What can I do with my bestfriend?

• CMGragain member

  

  December 2014

  
  

  Knottie85618619 said:

  Well, I have been friends with this girl for more than 10 years now, I always thought that she'll be the one more excited and helpful when the time for me to get married arrived. But the time is here and she not very helpful or even excited... All the opposite, she's been having all this bad comments about getting married, asking me if I'm sure, that maybe I should wait, that I'm toooooo young (I'm 24 by the way). I feel very confused, and I don't know what to do with this situation, besides she was supposed to be my maid of honor. What should I do? I don't want to loose her as a friend.

  1.  No one will be as excited about your wedding as you are.
  
  2.  Just what kind of help are you expecting her to provide?  She isn't supposed to help you plan your wedding.  She isn't supposed to help you make crafts for DIY projects.  She isn't required to throw any parties for you.
  
  I don't know your situation, but perhaps she has some valid concerns about your marriage.  That doesn't make her anything except a concerned friend.
  

  

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• AddieCake member

  

  December 2014

  Just stop talking to her about the wedding if she doesn't have any positive things to say.

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• ladyinthewhitedress member

  

  December 2014

  Is she responsible for planning your wedding? No. But if she can't stand uo for you and your FH without snarky comments then she shouldn't have accepted the role of bridesmaid. Also if she really is your best friend it is not unreasonable to expect her to be at least a little excited.

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• zitiqueen member

  

  December 2014

  Knottie85618619 said:

  Well, I have been friends with this girl for more than 10 years now, I always thought that she'll be the one more excited and helpful when the time for me to get married arrived. But the time is here and she not very helpful or even excited... All the opposite, she's been having all this bad comments about getting married, asking me if I'm sure, that maybe I should wait, that I'm toooooo young (I'm 24 by the way). I feel very confused, and I don't know what to do with this situation, besides she was supposed to be my maid of honor. What should I do? I don't want to loose her as a friend.

  What does the bolded mean?

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  December 2014 edited December 2014

  She sounds like she is projecting her own insecurities onto you. Reassure her that just because you are 24 doesn't mean you're immature and not ready for marriage.

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• WhatawagSBNy member

  

  December 2014

  She may also be realizing that as people get engaged and marry that they often spend less time with single friends. And the time they do spend is not like it was before. Bride to be seems to have FI or the wedding always on her mind or in her conversation.
  
  Maybe it is not her who has changed, but that even when with you she feels your mind is elsewhere.
  
  Do something you used to enjoy together and tell her you are banishing thoughts of FI and wedding for the day or evening.
  
  Real friends do feel bad when they sense that they are losing the attention of someone they care about and she is losing you. Or so it likely feels to her.

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