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Bachelorette Party Woes

KrynnerBearKrynnerBear member
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I just had my MOH drop out of my wedding so I am left to plan my party by myself. I wanted to invite my bridal party and a few close girlfriends and make a whole day of it. I kinda also wanted to combine it with a lingerie shower as well because I know my grandma would not appricate a bridal shower full of lingerie. Anyone have any ideas other then going to to a spa or a bar? I would like to go shopping in little boutiques down the road and go have tea, what else can I do?
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  • mcskatcatmcskatcat member
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    Bad news:  you can't plan your own bach party.  It's a party thrown honoring the bride, so it's really in poor taste to be throwing a party to honor yourself.  You can have a get-together and call it anything else (and not have it be wedding related) but otherwise you need to let it go unless someone offers to throw one for you.
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  • Summer2011BrideSummer2011Bride member
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    Ditto PP. You can't throw your own party. Her advice is good though to just have a girls' night out with your friends but DON'T make it wedding-related. Just have a good time with good friends and leave it at that.


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  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
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    edited June 2012
    Agree with the others.  If someone else doesn't offer to do the bach party for you then  you won't have one.  You never host your own bach party or shower.

    Just have a get together and make sure it doesn't have the elements of a bach party.  Have a great time with your friends.
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    Stoopid knot ate my post.  Hopefully it shows up soon.
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    In Response to Re:Bachelorette Party Woes:[QUOTE]Agree with the others. nbsp;If someone else doesn't offer to do the bach party for you then nbsp;you won't have one. nbsp;You never host your own bach party or shower.Just have a get together and make sure it doesn't have the elements of a bach party. nbsp;Have a great time with your friends. Posted by kmmssg[/QUOTE]
    Is this the eaten post?

    Anyway, I agree with the pps. You don't HAVE to throw your own bach party just because your MOH dropped out. Maybe someone else will offer. If not, go out with your girls, just don't call it a Bach party.
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  • kmilon01kmilon01 member
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    I'm doing a ladies day to say thanks to my bridal party and I wanted it to be non traditional and not like a shower or bachelorette party.  We're visiting a winery ($5 per person tasting fee), then getting a private room at a pottery painting place and painting a little pottery hopefully with the wine we purcahse at the winery (cost is only for the items you choose to paint) and then we're going to finish it up with a private cooking class.  The cooking class is the most expensive part of the day, but I think it'll be worth it.I considered paint ball which we'd done before, but I bruise easily and bruises would not be a good look in my wedding gown. Hope this helps
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  • CarolineandDeanCarolineandDean member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_bachelorette-party-woes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:557b6d6e-e91c-490c-a1f8-8601d7b6fc8fPost:1b52127f-f09f-4712-bc1b-796c607ef250">Bachelorette Party Woes</a>:
    [QUOTE]I just had my MOH drop out of my wedding so I am left to plan my party by myself. I wanted to invite my bridal party and a few close girlfriends and make a whole day of it. I kinda also wanted to combine it with a lingerie shower as well because I know my grandma would not appricate a bridal shower full of lingerie. Anyone have any ideas other then going to to a spa or a bar? I would like to go shopping in little boutiques down the road and go have tea, what else can I do?
    Posted by KrynnerBear[/QUOTE]
    I'm sorry your MOH dropped out of your wedding.  And while I know etiquette says you aren't supposed to plan your own party, what bride doesn't want a Bachelorette Party?!  Why don't you get together with your other bridesmaids and <em>collectively</em> come up with some fun things to do one weekend.  You could go wine tasting, antiqueing, take a cooking class, or go to one of those "paint your own pottery" places.  Also, since you would be collectively planning, I would not expect them to pay for any of your activities or hotel fees.  Hope that helps!!  <div>
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  • emeejeeayenemeejeeayen member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_bachelorette-party-woes?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:557b6d6e-e91c-490c-a1f8-8601d7b6fc8fPost:cd867680-2463-4f60-8671-53715f2b5e06">Re:Bachelorette Party Woes</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:Bachelorette Party Woes: I wanted a horse drawn carriage at my wedding. Being an adult means understanding that wanting something does not mean being entitled to having it. OP, plan a girls night, heck even call it your Last Night Out or whatever, but don't expect gifts of any kind, to have others pay your way, or for it to be a night focused solely on you. You wouldn't throw your own birthday party or "congratulations on the job promotion" party would you?
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    <div>Maybe things are different in NYC, but almost everyone I know throws their own birthday parties! To be fair, it's more of a "I'll be at this bar, hope to see you there!" but what's the difference really? No one would ever bring gifts, but are gifts really expected after a certain age? Haha. </div><div>
    </div><div>(And does ANYONE throw job promotion parties? Clearly the people in my life aren't getting promoted enough lol) </div><div>
    </div><div>Honestly, I don't see a bachelorette party as a gift-giving event, so I don't see what the big deal is if you're the planner in your group, and you are inviting your close friends. I mean, etiquette is important and all, but who here is a proper lady after the amount most people drink at a bachelorette party? And with your closest friends? Who has the energy to be so perfect ALL THE TIME with the people you're closest to? </div><div>
    </div><div>Also, isn't the bachelorette party what the bridal party looks most forward to anyway? :P I'm sure all you'd have to say is "MOH dropped out, no bachelorette party," and they'd all freak out and plan something. (But personally I think that's passive aggressive and you should just take the initiative and have a fun night out with your girlfriends!) </div><div>
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