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My son walking me down

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Most brides get to have their father walk them down the aisle when getting married. My father was murdered last year so I will not have that option. Our ceremony will be a same sex ceremony and I have two kids from a relationship when I was really young. I am making my daughter a JR. bridesmaid and my son would like to walk me down. I am not sure if I should have him to do it or if I should walk alone. I have lost a great deal of family the last few years and my kids are my world including my FI. 

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    KatWAGKatWAG member
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    april&amanda said:

    Most brides get to have their father walk them down the aisle when getting married. My father was murdered last year so I will not have that option. Our ceremony will be a same sex ceremony and I have two kids from a relationship when I was really young. I am making my daughter a JR. bridesmaid and my son would like to walk me down. I am not sure if I should have him to do it or if I should walk alone. I have lost a great deal of family the last few years and my kids are my world including my FI. <?xml:namespace prefix = o />

    I am sorry about your dad.

    How old is your son? Does he want to walk you down the aisle?

    Also, make your daughter a Bridesmaid or a flower girl (depending on her age.) A Jr. BM is a made up title.

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    april&amandaapril&amanda member
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    my son is 10 but when I get married he will 11 years old. Yeah he wants to walk me down he asked me to. I did not know Jr brides maid was a made up term :P thanks for that!
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    edited December 2014
    april&amanda said:
    my son is 10 but when I get married he will 11 years old. Yeah he wants to walk me down he asked me to. I did not know Jr brides maid was a made up term :P thanks for that!

    Well, if he wants to walk you down the aisle and you are good with that, then let him. I think it would be sweet.

    Jr BM and BM are the same thing since neither have any roles or responsiblities. I guess the only difference there could be, is the dress. Depending on what style you pick, it might need to be modified for a younger BM. Your daughter will probably feel very cool and grown up being a BM, like all the other ladies.

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    Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    I think it's sweet that your son wants to walk you down the aisle. He shouldn't "give you away," and he and your daughter are too young to be legal witnesses, but other than that, I see no reason why he and your daughter shouldn't be treated the same as adults in your wedding party so I wouldn't call them "junior" anything.
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    Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    I'm so sorry about your father.
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    april&amandaapril&amanda member
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    thank you @Jen4948 as for the giving away part..I don't have anyone to do that. If a father or mother are both passed and sister is passed who else could do it or be considered approriate? 
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    april&amanda said:
    thank you @Jen4948 as for the giving away part..I don't have anyone to do that. If a father or mother are both passed and sister is passed who else could do it or be considered approriate? 

    No one needs to give you away, if you dont want that.

    But it can be any consenting adult. Your best friend, grandparent, aunt, graudian, etc

    eta: I have got to start proofreading!

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    april&amandaapril&amanda member
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    oh okay. My witness is going to be my maid of honor, so I could have her do it, or leave it out all together? Even though it's same sex we have a lot of traditional aspects left in the wedding. So still learning all of the formalities. 
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    Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Any adult you feel close to can "give you away" if you want someone to do that - including your MOH.
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    april&amandaapril&amanda member
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    Thanks for the great advice guys!
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    edited December 2014

    I'm sorry for your loss.

    It would be lovely for your son to walk you down the aisle. Nice touch :)

    In my family, the women aren't given away. The FOB, MOB, both parents or other family member escorts the bride down the aisle as a symbol of the family's support of the marriage. The two adults actually give themselves to each other in marriage. But if it's your tradition to 'give away' the bride, I don't see a problem with your son answering the question.




                       
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    CMGragainCMGragain member
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    When the officiant asks the question, "Who presents this woman..."  your son can answer, "Her family does."

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    april&amandaapril&amanda member
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    @CMGragain I am so writing that down! Thank you guys so much for the awesome support and help! I am glad we have these boards for help!!! Other wise I would be so lost!
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    climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    I'm very sorry about your father. I think it would be sweet to have your son walk you down the aisle. 
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    CMGragain said:
    When the officiant asks the question, "Who presents this woman..."  you son can answer, "Her family does."

    This is what I used at my wedding when my uncle "gave me away".
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    If your son wants to do it & you want him to do it, then go for it. I think it's kind of sweet because I would view it as him not necessarily giving you away, but as a way of saying, I accept this this relationship & I'm proud to be next to my mom as she enters into this next chapter of her life.
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    april&amandaapril&amanda member
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    Erikan73 could not have said that better myself! Yes that is a beautiful way to look at. I know how happy he is about the wedding :) ahh I can't wait!
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