gMIL is turning 90. BIL wants to throw a surprise party. He wants to do a potluck open house. That's fine BUT she's NINETY and AWESOME. When DH and I started dating she and I would write letters to each other. I thought it would be nice if each kid, grand, and great grand wrote her a letter about how awesome she is. He said no (DH and I will still do it).
Again on the letter vein I said it would be cool to ask people she knows to send her a postcard. His response "I guess I can put something out to her facebook friends." Dude, she's 90 and has 68 friends. I was thinking of having your mom mention it to the sorority they are both in (they still go to monthly meetings). I thought I could take a bunch of postcards and stamps to the nursing home gFIL was at. He isn't a fan. Whatever. I'm still going to do it.
I need to walk away from the food too. It's at his house. If he wants to order a couple of deli trays and open a bag of chips so be it. However SHE likes good and spicy stuff.