Suggesting shoe attire for guests?

kassy66 · December 2014

So I keep reading everywhere on here that we should not dictate our guests attire because we are all adults and yada yada. I totally get that. BUT our wedding is going to be at an outdoor wedding (grass everywhere) and our venue coordinator recommended we mention to the guests that heels are a bad idea. Stilettos, specifically, because they'll just keep sinking into the grass and cause havoc.

Is there a way I can suggest the women guests don't wear heels, without sounding all bridezilla?

mikenberger · December 2014

kassy66 said:

So I keep reading everywhere on here that we should not dictate our guests attire because we are all adults and yada yada. I totally get that. BUT our wedding is going to be at an outdoor wedding (grass everywhere) and our venue coordinator recommended we mention to the guests that heels are a bad idea. Stilettos, specifically, because they'll just keep sinking into the grass and cause havoc.

Is there a way I can suggest the women guests don't wear heels, without sounding all bridezilla?

"I keep reading everywhere that we should not dictate our guests attire because we ARE ALL ADULTS."

You've answered your own question. I'd pass through word of mouth that the ceremony is outside, people will pick up that the ground isn't going to be concrete. But you cannot put somewhere "Please wear the proper footwear." Some people will wear heels regardless.

The only place I can see it being acceptable is if you are getting married on a golf course and the course doesn't want women in heels spiking into the turf. Or there is some other condition of the property. But if there isn't... nope. Leave it alone.

AddieCake · December 2014

Our original venue required guests to walk down a rocky path on a hill. I mentioned it on our wedding website and said they might want to keep shoes in mind because of it.

climbingsingle · December 2014

As a guest, I really do appreciate being given a head's up about a situation like this. I once went to a wedding in very high heels and the whole thing was on a slanted grassy hill, reception too. It was impossible for me to walk around.

I think you should spread by word of mouth and if you have a website, include this info on there.

Jen4948 · December 2014

I once wore a pair of high-heeled shoes to a wedding that turned out to be out-of-doors on soft grass. Walking was very difficult for me. I would have appreciated a heads-up about the terrain. So I agree with PPs that putting out notice by word-of-mouth and on a website would be helpful to guests.

Cookie Pusher · December 2014

We had an outdoor ceremony, and just mentioned on our website that the ceremony would be on grass. We also made sure to let the loudest mouths in our social circles and families know - word spread quickly.

kassy66 · December 2014

Cookie Pusher said:

We had an outdoor ceremony, and just mentioned on our website that the ceremony would be on grass. We also made sure to let the loudest mouths in our social circles and families know - word spread quickly.

Lol I can definitely think of some loud mouths in my family that would be great at this!

Thanks for the advice everyone. I don't want people to feel like I'm telling them what to do, but I also don't want them to suffer! I think I'll leaving the 'telling' up to my bridal party

lyndausvi · December 2014

Our wedding was to be on a the beach. We simply said "The ceremony will be on the actual beach. There will be a shoe valet available for those who would like to remove their shoes".

I have no problem letting people know the ceremony is going to be taking place in an area where heels will not be wise. I just wouldn't say "Do not wear heels". Simply give them the heads up on the location and then it's out of your hands.

and ditto telling your loud mouth. Every group has one. It's a great way to get the word out.

allispain · December 2014

We simply posted on our wedding website that the ceremony was going to be outdoors, the venue has brick paths, and that guests would be able to explore the grounds (including going down to the pasture to pet the mini horses and goats) throughout the entire event. We did not dictate any kind of footwear.

lc07 · December 2014

I, too, would simply state the location, not what to wear. I can walk in stilettos on grass just fine and I would prefer to wear heels to a wedding.

ETA: When I say location, I mean "grassy lawn" or whatever.

behsco90 · December 2014

I wore stilettos to my cousin's wedding where the ceremony took place on grass. I kept sinking into the grass and losing my balance. She did not mention it on her website or through word of mouth and I would have much appreciated some sort of warning or note.

rcher912 · December 2014

We've all made that mistake once - and only once! Mentioning terrain, specifying outdoor ceremony or whatever the deal is, and 99% of women will pick up on it.

SP29 · December 2014

I agree- please do inform guests about the venue "The ceremony will take place outside on the lawn" but don't say anything about what to wear/ not to wear- adults can figure that out.

Some people always wear heels, and maybe they will have heel caps.

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