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Registry info included in Wedding Invitation

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So my husband (so weird to say! just got married) and I received yesterday a wedding invitation from one of his close family members. Included in the invitation was a separate cut-out sheet listing all the registry info and even included a line saying all gifts are available for purchase online. I told my husband that I thought this was quite rude since it seems gift-grabby. I told him that when I was planning our wedding, I was told it is a faux pas to include that info on the wedding invitation, since guests could find it on the wedding website or quietly hear it through the "grapevine." 

Sidenote: also got invite to her wedding shower where the bride sent a separate email to everyone saying she wants a certain gift. 

Usually I am pretty generous at weddings with gifts, but this just feels like too much!

I'm assuming there is nothing I can do about this... it just is annoying. Rant over. 
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    There's nothing you can do except to educate those who ask!

    You're right.   It's rude. 
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Rude, tacky, and greeeeeeeeeedy as heck.
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  • lovegood90lovegood90 member
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    Ack! So gift grabby.

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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Someone on TK got a wedding invitation with registry info in it again. Color me shocked. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • flutteringinflflutteringinfl member
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    I had to explain to my mom the other day why this is rude. She was shocked. "But how will people know where you're registered???" "They'll ask!"
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  • allispainallispain member
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    HReis13 said:
    So my husband (so weird to say! just got married) and I received yesterday a wedding invitation from one of his close family members. Included in the invitation was a separate cut-out sheet listing all the registry info and even included a line saying all gifts are available for purchase online. I told my husband that I thought this was quite rude since it seems gift-grabby. I told him that when I was planning our wedding, I was told it is a faux pas to include that info on the wedding invitation, since guests could find it on the wedding website or quietly hear it through the "grapevine." 

    Sidenote: also got invite to her wedding shower where the bride sent a separate email to everyone saying she wants a certain gift. 

    Usually I am pretty generous at weddings with gifts, but this just feels like too much!

    I'm assuming there is nothing I can do about this... it just is annoying. Rant over. 
    Wait, did she send out one e-mail to everyone saying, "I'd really like X" or did she send individual e-mails to everyone requesting different gifts? Either way, horrible tacky. I'm just curious :-) Also, can you tell us what it was she requested?
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    This is something that I feel is tacky, I totally roll my eyes over and then move on.   It's pretty far down on my list of etiquette breaches. 


    Now if you gave me an specific email of what I can buy you for your shower, I'm fairly certain I would not be attending that event. 






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    Yes, it's presumptuous to include s gift registry cards with the wedding invitations. Throw the card in the trash and give the couple what you were planning to give them before you received the invitation. I chalk this up to more of an error, than a deliberate offense. Glad you know it's tacky and won't be doing it yourself.

    The request from the bride for a specific shower gift is way out of line. Shame on her for acting like a five three year old child who hasn't learned her manners yet. I would buy her monogrammed guest towels for a shower gift.


                       
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    Requesting a specific gift would pretty much guarantee you were going to get anything but that particular item!  RUDE!
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  • Wegl13Wegl13 member
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    I still feel like this is becoming more the fault of the stores where these brides register. If you don't think about it, and then the store hands you those stupid registry cards and says "put these in your invitations!".... Well that's the education you get. Luckily I was brought up with a good southern lady that knows how to say "that's just tacky dear" and I also read the wedding section of the local paper growing up but- that isn't everyone. I'd chalk THAT part up to an honest mistake and call it a day. Now the emailing to request a certain gift? That's not just tacky, that's bizarre.
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  • hyechica81hyechica81 member
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    we only put gift registry info in the bridal shower invites.  in the wedding invites we left it blank.. but everyone who got a save the date had our wedding website on it for more info. 

    putting that in a wedding invite is tacky as hell people give what they can afford normaly around where i live its money and a few gifts depending on your crowed 
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