Wedding Vows & Ceremony Discussions

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  • I agree. Great question.
  • She also cross posted and I guess DD this one?  Here is that post:

    fall16 said:
    I've always had the idea when someone gets married, they include any siblings, FI siblings and close friends in the bridal party. I'm close to my FI's two sisters so I have automatically included them in the bridal party and out of proper etiquette, my FI is willing to include my two brothers on his side (although they aren't as close). Now, my older brother is getting married this year and I assumed I would ask her to be a bridesmaid when the time gets closer (we don't get married until 2016). But, as far as I know, she is not asking me to be a bridesmaid as my brother said "he had never heard of siblings being in other siblings' weddings, he wasn't even gonna consider our youngest brother..." Anyways, that's another story. But, should I still ask his future wife to be a bridesmaid in my wedding even though we aren't that close? And should I expect my FI to keep my two younger brothers on his side?
  • Why DD???

    I'll give my opinion.  I was also raised that it's polite to include siblings and that family comes first for WP, but I understand the other side and simply, a lot of other people don't feel the same way.

    There is no etiquette rule about this, so neither you or her are wrong per say.  You can choose to include her knowing she will not reciprocate or not.  It's up to you.
  • If you and your FSIL are not that close, there is no need for you to ask her. And if your FI does not feel that close to your brothers, he need not ask them. No etiquette rule will be violated if she is not your bridesmaid and your brothers are not groomsmen.
  • I'm an only child, and family was never of a great significance to me. Like, even if I had a larger wedding I probably would have only given my parents any special role just because I knew if would hurt them if I didnt. But personally I don't care one way or the other. So it was a no-brainer to not ask SiL to be part of my wedding planning or in my WP (had one existed).

    I really just can't relate to people feeling like someone deserves a certain role simply because of the vagina that they came out of. If you're close then that's one thing, but if you're not then it's a whole different story.
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