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Registering for Gifts

aphrodite0869aphrodite0869 member
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My Fiancee and I are going on a cruise for our honeymoon.  We do not need anything as we own our own home and have everything we need for it.  The crusie line has inserts you can send that say we are registered with them.  Is it rude to send those with the wedding invitations so people know?
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Re: Registering for Gifts

  • wrigleyvillewrigleyville member
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    edited January 2015
    Registry info should never be sent with the invitations. You can put it on your wedding website and in your shower invitations. However, this sounds like stuff people wouldn't be able to bring to a shower, in which case you wouldn't have one. Showers are only for physical gifts.

    What type of stuff are you registering for with the cruise line? Is it dinners and drinks and things like that? Honeymoon registries are frowned upon, as you're basically asking people to subsidize your vacation. Plus, there's an excellent chance the cruise line will take a cut, in which case you're actually getting less money.

    I would simply forego a registry. Guests will likely give you money at your wedding (most guests give money as a wedding gift anyway), and then you can use that money on your cruise.
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  • poodledoodleooopoodledoodleooo member
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    Yep, it's always rude to include any registry information with your invitations. It's the sort of thing that should be spread word of mouth, and really, only if people ask about it.
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  • aphrodite0869aphrodite0869 member
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    It's basically dinner, drinks, and excursions.  We just don't want people asking (I've already had people ask) and telling them we don't need anything but money b/c that sounded rude...so I wasn't sure.  Thank you!
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  • wrigleyvillewrigleyville member
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    aphrodite0869 said:
    It's basically dinner, drinks, and excursions.  We just don't want people asking (I've already had people ask) and telling them we don't need anything but money b/c that sounded rude...so I wasn't sure.  Thank you!
    Yeah, just say, "We have everything we need, but thank you so much for asking!" That usually gets the point across.
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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    aphrodite0869 said:
    It's basically dinner, drinks, and excursions.  We just don't want people asking (I've already had people ask) and telling them we don't need anything but money b/c that sounded rude...so I wasn't sure.  Thank you!
    You can tell them "we're not registering for anything... we're just saving up for our cruise!" Then IF (and only if) they ask "well can I buy you something for your cruise?" you could give them that information. But they'll likely just make a mental note and give cash.

    FWIW, we had 3 registries and still more than 75% of our wedding gifts were cash, 5 or 6 were off-registry gifts (apparently our elder family members think all couples need crystal stuff, despite not registering for any), and 2 were from the registry. In my experience, people tend to give registry items at showers and cash at weddings.
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  • Cookie PusherCookie Pusher member
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    wrigleyville said:
    aphrodite0869 said:
    It's basically dinner, drinks, and excursions.  We just don't want people asking (I've already had people ask) and telling them we don't need anything but money b/c that sounded rude...so I wasn't sure.  Thank you!
    Yeah, just say, "We have everything we need, but thank you so much for asking!" That usually gets the point across.
    This is exactly what we did for our wedding. Lo and behold, every gift we received was cash, check, or gift card. People can be pretty smart if you let them be!
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  • NYCMercedesNYCMercedes member
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    "Saving for ..." is the standard reply when you don't register. It would be crass to include anything about gifts with your invitation.
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  • ViczaesarViczaesar member
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    edited January 2015
    aphrodite0869 said:
    My Fiancee and I are going on a cruise for our honeymoon.  We do not need anything as we own our own home and have everything we need for it.  The crusie line has inserts you can send that say we are registered with them.  Is it rude to send those with the wedding invitations so people know?
    Thanks,
    Yes, it is incredibly rude.  Nothing about gifts or registries should ever go in a wedding invitation, ever.



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  • huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 member
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    aphrodite0869 said:
    My Fiancee and I are going on a cruise for our honeymoon.  We do not need anything as we own our own home and have everything we need for it.  The crusie line has inserts you can send that say we are registered with them.  Is it rude to send those with the wedding invitations so people know?
    Thanks,
    Yes.
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