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edited January 2015 in Chit Chat
I used to consider myself a reg, but lately I don't feel like I'm part of that club anymore.  For instance - I was looking at the board for my date - April 25, 2015 and a few of the people are sending out their invitations early next week.  Is it just me or is this a little early? Or do I need to start panicking because I haven't printed my invitations yet.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    No, that is way too early.  For your date you should be sending them out, at the earliest, 8 weeks before, so February 25th.

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  • loveislouderloveislouder member
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    Thanks @Maggie0829. They were also saying they were requesting the RSVPs back 5-6 weeks in advance.  I figured things hadn't changed that much, but just wanted to confirm.
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    loveislouder said:
    Thanks @Maggie0829. They were also saying they were requesting the RSVPs back 5-6 weeks in advance.  I figured things hadn't changed that much, but just wanted to confirm.
    So, basically you have a bunch of crazies getting married on your wedding day ;)

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  • l9il9i member
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    Agreed with Maggie - 8 weeks prior.  I believe I sent mine out 8 weeks prior with the RSVP 2 weeks before.  I think that's pretty standard?
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  • loveislouderloveislouder member
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    Maggie0829 said:
    loveislouder said:
    Thanks @Maggie0829. They were also saying they were requesting the RSVPs back 5-6 weeks in advance.  I figured things hadn't changed that much, but just wanted to confirm.
    So, basically you have a bunch of crazies getting married on your wedding day ;)
    Apparently. Good thing it isn't contageous :P
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  • emmaaaemmaaa mod
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    Agree with PP's, 8 wekks out is fine. I think 2-3 weeks before for RSVPs is normal.

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  • loveislouderloveislouder member
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    l9i said:
    Agreed with Maggie - 8 weeks prior.  I believe I sent mine out 8 weeks prior with the RSVP 2 weeks before.  I think that's pretty standard?
    @l9i I think that's standard too. I had originally planned to hand deliver to a couple of my out of towners over Christmas, but never got around to it and didn't think anything of it because that was WAY early.
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    l9i said:
    Agreed with Maggie - 8 weeks prior.  I believe I sent mine out 8 weeks prior with the RSVP 2 weeks before.  I think that's pretty standard?
    This is pretty standard.  But the RSVP date is determined by when your venue needs a final head count.  Some crazy venues want a final head count 30 days before so you would need an earlier RSVP date.

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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    6-8 weeks is fine.  I don't clutch my pearls up to 10 though.   We did 8.5 weeks.


    RSVP I think 3 weeks is pushing too far out.   10-14 days seems to be more the standard in my circle.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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  • climbingsingleclimbingsingle member
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    6 weeks is super early for an RSVP. 
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    Minor thread-jack (sorry), but this made me think about the fact that my planner told me just before the holidays that we should send STDs 9 months before our wedding.

    NINE months for an STD?  I always thought it was more like six.

    Does nine months seem early or on target for STDs, Knotties?
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    FeeleyToBe said:
    Minor thread-jack (sorry), but this made me think about the fact that my planner told me just before the holidays that we should send STDs 9 months before our wedding.

    NINE months for an STD?  I always thought it was more like six.

    Does nine months seem early or on target for STDs, Knotties?
    my cousin sent her out in december and shes getting married august of this year. 
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  • KeptInStitchesKeptInStitches member
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    Hey, I resent that!

    I am getting married that day, posted, and I am DEFINITELY not crazy.
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    mrsk616 said:
    FeeleyToBe said:
    Minor thread-jack (sorry), but this made me think about the fact that my planner told me just before the holidays that we should send STDs 9 months before our wedding.

    NINE months for an STD?  I always thought it was more like six.

    Does nine months seem early or on target for STDs, Knotties?
    my cousin sent her out in december and shes getting married august of this year. 
    I sent out my STD in January for my Sept 6th wedding.  Our wedding was 100% OOT for guests, plus it was a resort town with limited lodging.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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  • theycallmelinztheycallmelinz member
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    Haha I posted there too. Im getting married on the 11th, so I think we will be sending ours out right at the 8 week mark in early February.
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  • lacqueredloverlacqueredlover member
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    I stay away from my month wedding board since I was told I sounded entitled when someone said they were having a "modest yet grand great gatsby wedding on 10/31 and is anyone else doing that date?"  I asked what "modest yet grand" meant and explained why I personally didn't want to have my wedding on halloween because I have step kids and would rather spend halloween trick or treating than celebrating my anniversary and was concerned people with kids would rather be with their families.
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    FeeleyToBe said:
    Minor thread-jack (sorry), but this made me think about the fact that my planner told me just before the holidays that we should send STDs 9 months before our wedding.

    NINE months for an STD?  I always thought it was more like six.

    Does nine months seem early or on target for STDs, Knotties?
    No.  Anywhere from a year to 6 months before is perfectly fine for a STD.

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    lacqueredlover said:
    I stay away from my month wedding board since I was told I sounded entitled when someone said they were having a "modest yet grand great gatsby wedding on 10/31 and is anyone else doing that date?"  I asked what "modest yet grand" meant and explained why I personally didn't want to have my wedding on halloween because I have step kids and would rather spend halloween trick or treating than celebrating my anniversary and was concerned people with kids would rather be with their families.
    modest yet grand - well okay.

    Then add in there is nothing modest about the Great Gastby.  

    ::eye rolling::







    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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    lyndausvi said:
    lacqueredlover said:
    I stay away from my month wedding board since I was told I sounded entitled when someone said they were having a "modest yet grand great gatsby wedding on 10/31 and is anyone else doing that date?"  I asked what "modest yet grand" meant and explained why I personally didn't want to have my wedding on halloween because I have step kids and would rather spend halloween trick or treating than celebrating my anniversary and was concerned people with kids would rather be with their families.
    modest yet grand - well okay.

    Then add in there is nothing modest about the Great Gastby.  

    ::eye rolling::

    And that having a Great Gatsby themed wedding is weird since the story was pretty sad and miserable.

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    Maggie0829 said:
    lyndausvi said:
    lacqueredlover said:
    I stay away from my month wedding board since I was told I sounded entitled when someone said they were having a "modest yet grand great gatsby wedding on 10/31 and is anyone else doing that date?"  I asked what "modest yet grand" meant and explained why I personally didn't want to have my wedding on halloween because I have step kids and would rather spend halloween trick or treating than celebrating my anniversary and was concerned people with kids would rather be with their families.
    modest yet grand - well okay.

    Then add in there is nothing modest about the Great Gastby.  

    ::eye rolling::

    And that having a Great Gatsby themed wedding is weird since the story was pretty sad and miserable.
    I wanted to be like "so is it like Daisy marrying Tom who she hated or the whole cheating with Gatsby part that really drew you into the story?"  OR, do you just want an art deco 1920's themed wedding in which case, say so.
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    Maggie0829 said:
    lyndausvi said:
    lacqueredlover said:
    I stay away from my month wedding board since I was told I sounded entitled when someone said they were having a "modest yet grand great gatsby wedding on 10/31 and is anyone else doing that date?"  I asked what "modest yet grand" meant and explained why I personally didn't want to have my wedding on halloween because I have step kids and would rather spend halloween trick or treating than celebrating my anniversary and was concerned people with kids would rather be with their families.
    modest yet grand - well okay.

    Then add in there is nothing modest about the Great Gastby.  

    ::eye rolling::

    And that having a Great Gatsby themed wedding is weird since the story was pretty sad and miserable.
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  • loveislouderloveislouder member
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    KeptInStitches said:
    Hey, I resent that!

    I am getting married that day, posted, and I am DEFINITELY not crazy.
    Yes, but you were reasonable with your 8 week mark and not crazy. :)
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    loveislouder said:
    KeptInStitches said:
    Hey, I resent that!

    I am getting married that day, posted, and I am DEFINITELY not crazy.
    Yes, but you were reasonable with your 8 week mark and not crazy. :)
    I'm getting married in April, too! And yes, that board is .... special. I'm definitely not a regular poster or anything, but am a (hardcore) lurker and some of the things that get posted there are speshul snowflake-y as the regs would say. I would like to think I am also not crazy, but I don't think I've posted enough to prove that. But I promise I'm not!


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  • anjemonanjemon member
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    I'm getting married on that day too! I feel like our board didn't have any activity when I first came on here (with too much time to kill) so I never go over there.

    I'm planning to send out invites in early Feb. Which is a little early but we need the RSVPs a little early because of our venue. Also, we didn't do STDs so I felt like it would be nice to give people a little bit more warning.

    I'm actually planning to order them in the next couple of weeks so I can address at my leisure.
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  • dolewhipperdolewhipper member
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    Getting married 3/7, sending invites next week. RSVP is 10 days before wedding, don't need final count until 3 days prior.

    Sent STD 8 months out since lodging might have been an issue.


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  • loveislouderloveislouder member
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    Thanks for all the input ladies. FI and I are going to buy a printer to print them soon. I'm sure I'll be back with wording questions if I can't get my answer from that awesome Invitation Wording thread.
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    FeeleyToBe said:
    Minor thread-jack (sorry), but this made me think about the fact that my planner told me just before the holidays that we should send STDs 9 months before our wedding.

    NINE months for an STD?  I always thought it was more like six.

    Does nine months seem early or on target for STDs, Knotties?
    6-9 months is normal. I've seen up to a year, but that seems really early. We sent ours in early October for our mid June wedding. 
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  • lacqueredloverlacqueredlover member
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    I've seen anywhere from a year to 6 months for a save the date.  Ours will probably go out about 8 months since where we are having the wedding, the hotels fill up that time of year and even though we have a room block, people want to book it
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