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soontobephister · January 2015

doeydo · January 2015

Sorry, but it's a bad idea, IMO.

Maggie0829 · January 2015

No, just no.

Just go try on dresses and get people's opinion the normal way, by asking them.

And how many people are you taking with you?

vmj23 · January 2015

Doing this may cause you to buy a dress you don't like, or reject one you love. Sure, you may want other opinions but at the end of the day you are the one wearing the dress. I really wouldn't recommend any "rating" scale and wouldn't too many people with you.

NYCMercedes · January 2015

I'd say yes to every dress my friend put on.

NowIamMrsKlein · January 2015

I wouldn't recommend this. What if you absolutely loved the dress and everyone throws up a no? Or you have a big issue with a dress and its a unanimous yes? Rating systems like this throw a lot of doubt into dress shopping and make you more likely to end up with a dress that you don't particularly like simply because everyone else gave it a 'yes'

It's best for the entourage to wait to see how you react to the dress. It doesn't matter if they don't like it, if you love it, then its your dress.

When we went shopping for my little sisters dress when she came out we gave her a moment in front of the mirror to evaluate herself. Then she would turn around and we would ask her what she thought. (usually we could tell from her face if it was a contender or not). Once she had given her intial reaction then we gave our opinions. Her style of dress was not one I particularly liked. But she loved it.

My family did a similar method when I bought mine. After I had narrowed it down to two choices they gave me the pros and cons about both and left it up to me to make my final choice.

After the dress was purchased my MOH told me that she was happy I picked the one I did because its the one she loved the most. But she didn't tell me that when I was shopping because it doesn't matter which one she loved the most. She didnt want to influence my decision and potentially steer me away from the one I loved the most.

climbingsingle · January 2015

ShesSoCold · January 2015

I don't understand why everything wedding-related must be a giant production. Just give the girl a ring. Just put on a dress and receive verbal opinions. Just ask people to be in your bridal party. NBD.

ETA: This is my general opinion, not necessarily directed at you, OP.

atlastmrsg · January 2015

I saw a group do this on SYTTD. Not only were the salon consultants exasperated with it (they had numbers on paddles), it devolved into chaos.

Another vote for no. Try on dresses like a normal person. Take a person or maybe two with you. Or go on your own so you can see what you like. But don't take an entourage. And don't make it into something like this.

Knottie1455775 · January 2015

Just pick for yourself and have a few there to agree with you. I think you will go crazy listening to all of those other opinions.

soontobephister · January 2015

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soontobephister · January 2015

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ShesSoCold · January 2015

Phisty2 said:

Also, the reason I want to do it in a fun way, is because its something I WANT to do. I know I can ask in a "normal" way, but this is what I WANT to do.

And as you all said it's MY dress, it's MY day, so I can do it MY way, no? just thought I put that out there.

soooo if you all didn't think it was a bad idea, do you have ANY ideas .. it does not have to be NUMBERS. I was thinking like maybe using emoticons or something.

And if no one has any ideas, that's perfectly okay as well. Thanks again!

Words. Spoken words have worked for centuries to get an opinion across.

Maggie0829 · January 2015

Phisty2 said:

Also, the reason I want to do it in a fun way, is because its something I WANT to do. I know I can ask in a "normal" way, but this is what I WANT to do.

And as you all said it's MY dress, it's MY day, so I can do it MY way, no? just thought I put that out there.

soooo if you all didn't think it was a bad idea, do you have ANY ideas .. it does not have to be NUMBERS. I was thinking like maybe using emoticons or something.

And if no one has any ideas, that's perfectly okay as well. Thanks again!

But why? So will someone throwing up a "NO" card or a "sad face" card make it easier to accept that they don't like the dress that you may actually love? Come on. You are an adult, so stop trying to make something cute when really it will just make you look silly.

Knottie1455775 · January 2015

Good luck and I hope everyone will agree on the one you will love!!!!

soontobephister · January 2015

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Maggie0829 · January 2015

Phisty2 said:

I'm sorry, I didn't realize an adult couldn't make things "cute" and that being silly was a bad thing.

My perspective is obviously not being viewed, even in the slightest, so I suppose I'll move on.

Hope your wedding dress shopping is an enjoyable process for you!! I know mine will!

Sorry I just don't think making others hold signs with silly faces when you try on wedding dresses just because you want to be all cute and silly will really help you decide on a dress. You may get a laugh or two but really in the end, the signs won't decide shit, you will.

And when I purchased my dress I had a fabulous time with my sister and Mom. We had fun, we laughed and even cried. And not once did I feel I needed signs to help me make a decision or have a good time. So step away from SYTTD and from Pinterest and just focus on what you like and the actual words your friends/family are saying.

plainjane0415 · January 2015

Phisty2 said:

Also, the reason I want to do it in a fun way, is because its something I WANT to do. I know I can ask in a "normal" way, but this is what I WANT to do.

And as you all said it's MY dress, it's MY day, so I can do it MY way, no? just thought I put that out there.

soooo if you all didn't think it was a bad idea, do you have ANY ideas .. it does not have to be NUMBERS. I was thinking like maybe using emoticons or something.

And if no one has any ideas, that's perfectly okay as well. Thanks again!

If you want to do it, then just do it. You don't need anyone here to tell you how to do it.

Personally, I think it's the makings of a shit show, and will probably turn out to be more stressful on you than you're thinking, but it sounds like you've already made up your mind that you are doing this, so go right ahead and do it.

The reason people aren't giving ideas on how to execute it is because it's not a good idea.

lovemesomemonster · January 2015

Personally, even having just my mom there was a lot to handle, even one other opinion! But then again I like to decide things in my own time and she is very go go go.. if you are the kind of person that can make a decision with a lot of other opinions flying at you then enjoy, but in the moment spending that kind of money I found it to be too much and plan on going by myself next time.

climbingsingle · January 2015

I think you've been watching too many rom-com montages.

I had 4 people with me. My mom, MIL, MOH and another best friend. We had a blast. No cutesy rating cards.

misshart00 · January 2015

I'm all about cutesy. I love stupid, cheesy stuff. But this is just no. This is something that people should give actual opinions on, not a smiley face.

theartistformerlyknownas · January 2015

I give this idea the poop emoticon.

MandyMost · January 2015

I think the issue is really that an opinion isn't necessarily a yes/no/maybe. In my dress shopping experience, I looked fantastic in a few gowns I didn't buy. Seriously. Really good. I can remember one in particular. But it just wasn't what I wanted. It wasn't what I envisioned for myself. It doesn't mean it wasn't a great dress, or I didn't look great in it, but it wasn't my vision. You really can't get that with a rating scale. In another situation, it came down to 2 dresses for the people I had with me. But for me, it was no contest. The dresses cost about the same, but one of them just FELT expensive. I felt like I was wearing a million dollar dress. The other just kinda felt cheap on me. But from their perspective, they were just thinking about which dress they liked better, not how it felt or how I felt in it.

In other people's experiences, and often on the TV shows, too, it's a similar situation. A bride looks great but the dress is, for example, not pricessy enough or too princessy...but the mom, or MOH loves it.

My advice for dress shopping is to make sure your entourage knows the adjectives you are going for. Sexy? Princessy? Classic? Sophisticated? Elegant? Fashion-forward? Modern? Maybe give them each an adjective how how you want to feel and for every dress you can ask person #1...is it sexy? and person #2...is it sophisticated?

I have a friend who took a couple people dress shopping, and (jokingly) had them each assigned to a body part. Her mom had to make sure she didn't look like she had "line-backer shoulders" and her friend had to make sure she didn't have "flat boobs", etc. Once you like a dress, it's fine to run-down all your concerns, in my opinion, and make sure you're OK with it all!

fieryredsam · January 2015

You asked for opinions, you got them. Don't ask a question you don't want to know the answer to,

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