Morning

mrsconn23 · January 2015

It's teeth chatteringly cold out there. DH took a bunch of stuff out of the garage and put it on the deck last night so we could park the cars in the garage. I can't wait for spring so he can build our minibarn and all that crap can go in there.

One of DH's co-supervisors was fired yesterday, a day after they announced they were hiring a 6th supervisor and planning for a second shift. And they bumped DH to the fired guy's team. He's going in at 5am now. At least he might be home in the afternoons? I hope things get better for him at work. Or he finds something better for the same (or better) money.

The kiddo has a 2 hour delay today. I told him I'd take pity and drive him to the end of the driveway to wait for the bus.

Heffalump · January 2015

Poor mr.conn. That's a tough situation. GL to him.

Y'all, tomorrow is supposed to be so cold that I'm actually going to drive DD to the bus. Which is unheard of. But they're saying 12, with a wind chill of 3, which is like hell freezing over here. The water company robo called everyone last night about preparing for the cold (which also never happens).

I had been doing great with my New Year's resolutions until last night. Took DD to the ortho to get her quad helix installed, and on the way to pick up DS, we stopped off at PetSmart to get an "ivory mystery snail" for her aquarium. Not sure what happened, but in between the time we plunked the bag in the tank when we got home and her bedtime, something clogged up her filter something fierce. Went in to put her to bed and there was water everywhere--it's just a 10 gal. tank, so she has an external filter, and when the outlet got clogged, there was nowhere for the water to go but over the top and all over her dresser. Fortunately (or unfortunately, if you're the Wooz), her gaggle of stuffed animals had soaked up a lot of it, but it was still a mess.

Finally got that all cleaned up, got her to bed, cleaned out the filter, got all of my prep work for the next morning done, and then DS woke up--molar #3 of 4 is coming in, and he's miserable. Got him back to bed and found that somewhere along the way, the cat threw up over the side of our bed, such that she managed to catch our quilt, sheets, AND the carpeting--the kitty trifecta.

So I never did manage to make it onto the elliptical yesterday evening. And I blew off flossing. And I ate 4 bites of the carrot cake that my brother sent as part of our Lobstergram. And I didn't read to DS. And I maybe wasn't 100% patient with DD, who was all wound up about the water and wet lovies when she was supposed to be going to sleep. So I blew a whole bunch of resolutions in the span of a couple of hours. Thank goodness I can start fresh today.

Heffalump · January 2015

I was going to ETA this, but I'm adding it as a separate post. I'm on the fence about my brother's GF--not that it's any of my business. She seems like a sweet girl, and my brother seems to be happy, so I guess that's the main thing. What I know of her is mostly from FB, and she has a combination of poor spelling/grammar and alternately vaguebooking/oversharing that sets my teeth on edge. I tell myself that that's the weakest possible reason to dislike someone, so I'm working on letting it go. But it also feels sort of rebound-y after my brother's divorce (also not my business), and she seems to be pretty serious--she's always tagging him in these relationship quizzes ("what kind of couple are you? you are the peanut butter and jelly couple!") and shit like that. And he gave her a photo book for Christmas, of which she photographed every.single.page and posted all of them on FB. Which, okay, whatever. I guess.

Last night she vaguebooked something about "that sinking feeling your stomach when you know something is not right" and then had a check-in from the local ER. So she got all these "Oh no! What's wrong???" comments, and I didn't see an answer, but I figured if she's well enough to be doing FB check-ins, she's probably still alive. <-- Cold, dead heart.

mrsconn23 · January 2015

::sits next to Heffa and offers up a side-eye::

Yep, all judgement-worthy. I loathe all of that. I do take the quizzes for shits and grins sometimes, but I hardly ever post the results. And the rest...nope, nope, nope.

DixieNormous330 · January 2015

We're in the windchill single digits here too. Luckily PF's bus is a door to door pick up/drop off. Tomorrow is supposed to be worse.

Had an ultrasound yesterday and baby's head/brain is looking good. I'll get official word from my OB later this week. I also ran just about all of the errands for PF's birthday party. This morning I assembled the favor bags, and everything else is staged to go into the car on Saturday. Cake is ordered and pick up is Sat. afternoon. All I have to do is put in the pizza order and we're golden.

Speaking of PF we're dealing with some major bedtime bullshit. Last week she started insisting one of us sit in her room with her until she was asleep. And even then she'd wake several times during the night. H doesn't like CIO because he thinks that due to her issues she can't manipulate us or that something is always wrong.

Monday I let her CIO. It was a DISASTER. 2 poops, 2 barfs (one in bed), a bedding change, a jammie change, and a total of 90 minutes crying. She still ended up in bed with me around 1:30 because I haven't slept in days and couldn't deal with multiple wake ups.

Last night I read a story to her while she was sitting in bed. Then I sat with her for 10 minutes rubbing her hand while her light was on. I left her light on. 90minutes/2 hours later she was up again. I sat with her for 30 minutes and she kept fighting sleep to make sure I wasn't going anywhere. Finally I had to pee so I left the room and ended up letting her CIO for an hour. Luckily she woke up once and it was at 5:50. My alarm was set for 6.

I'm so tired and frustrated. She's beside herself exhausted. Could this be growing pains? Is there some weird 4 year wakeful? Will I ever sleep again?!

VarunaTT · January 2015

I can't even begin to describe how cold it is here. I'm really surprised they didn't cancel school.

I slept horribly last night. We bought new pillows. They're memory foam pillows. They are not working out for me at all. I have a horrible kink in my right neck/shoulder and it seems to be messing up my hip as well. I've got some warning pangs that it's going to set off my ulnar nerve and that is a helluva big no-no. I'm trying just one tonight (I usually use 2 b/c it's more comfortable), but if that doesn't help, the pillow search will continue.

Heffalump · January 2015

DixieNormous330 said:

Had an ultrasound yesterday and baby's head/brain is looking good. I'll get official word from my OB later this week. I also ran just about all of the errands for PF's birthday party.
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I'm so tired and frustrated. She's beside herself exhausted. Could this be growing pains? Is there some weird 4 year wakeful? Will I ever sleep again?!

Yay for good head and brain! What is PF's party theme this year?

I think DD was about that age when she started full-on bedtime shenanigans: stalling (water, umpteenth bathroom trip, I need my fairy kitty, etc.) and when we finally shut that down, she escalated to screaming, crying tantrums. And now DS is doing it (teeth, but I think there's a side of separation anxiety, because even between molars, he was still waking once and wouldn't settle until I put him in bed between DH and me). Do you think PF has any kind of separation anxiety?

0Face · January 2015

I'm sorry to hear about your bedtime issues with your kiddo, Dixie, that sounds very difficult. Not like my opinion REALLY matters but letting her CIO seems like an option that has to work. I don't know how parents do it.

Heffa---How old is this chick? :-/

I am a zombie today. Turns out the painting I did on Monday wasn't that great (you mean painting by flourescent crap lights doesn't work out well!?!?) and so I had to do another coat, and then paint a room that I never expected to paint. So I wasn't home until 11:30 last night, and then asleep by 12:45 after H got home.

Today it's -33 with windchill and I'm here at work, barely working---with a list. Someone said we were going home midmorning, but I doubt that. It just doesn't seem feasible. Also---I have my yearly review at 10am. I'm not sure how I feel about it really...this whole past year has sucked major balls all around...so I'm having a hard time seeing the good in it. Yep.

DixieNormous330 · January 2015

@heffalump - I'm sure separation anxiety is playing into things. She had a meltdown when I went to take some laundry down to the basement. Usually I can leave her with a TV show and she's fine. Last night she melted.

H was home all of December. The last 9 months he's been out of town 5 days a week. She was on vacation with him for a week and a half. He's out of town again this week. She started this last week when he was still home but she might have sensed that her "daddy time" was coming to an end.

As for the birthday party - It's a Frozen themed party. But we're doing it at a local Gymboree. They're really being awesome and customizing a party so that she can fully participate. It'll be a music party with bubble activities and parachute activities. I'm excited. It's our first "kid" party. There are only a total of 7 kids, but I'm more than ok with that.

PMeg819 · January 2015

Yeah, DS sort of has had a 4 year sleep thing. He's up several times in the night several times a week. He'll wander around the house in sort of a daze, sometimes he cries but sometimes he's fine. Its weird, but our pedi said it was okay. Someone just has to keep an eye on him that he doesn't hurt himself. So of course, that means me. He's been better the last few months. He goes to the bathroom and goes back to bed.

I'm tired. I drank too much wine last night and ended up going to bed at like 1:30 am. Of course, it was up and at 'em with the kids early this morning. I really do not want to work because I'm tired. I'd rather be in bed.

mrsconn23 · January 2015

DefConn is a bedtime staller. So is the kiddo.

The kiddo annoys me more because DH and I will have sex after we think the kids are asleep, be done, open our door for the night (we have a hallway heater to keep the upstairs warm) and then the kiddo's up because he has to pee. Our upstairs is 700 sq feet and the bedrooms are all close together, so we are quieter than we were in the last house...but it's annoying/unnerving that he seems to do it every.single.time. And I'm all for teaching healthy sex-related stuff, but it is uncomfortable to think your kid is hearing/listening to you doing it.

Heffalump · January 2015

DD used to be the worst bedtime staller, but kindergarten (especially the lack of nap) has taken that out of her--we put her to bed half an hour earlier than we used to, and she's asleep in minutes. Sometimes she asks for a glass of water, and by the time I go down to the kitchen and return, she's already asleep.

@Dixie, The only reason I asked about separation anxiety is that with both kids, whenever we've had bedtime issues, they've been concurrent with stuff like your laundry meltdown. DS whimpers when I open the door to the garage to toss something in the recycling bins, for goodness sake. I don't even have to leave the room, it's just the idea that I might be leaving that sets him off.

And good question on the girlfriend--for someone who puts it all out there, she has her birthday listed, but not the year. I'm bad at guessing ages, but maybe very late twenties to early thirties?

6fsn · January 2015

SIL vaguebooks and it's awful.

This 90th bday is a cluster.

Max is sleeping like shit.

I've managed to lose a 2.5 lbs weight.

PMeg819 · January 2015

Yeah, stalling is a problem in our house. DS is a master at it.

"Mom, I need to go potty"
"Mom, Dad didn't tuck me in right"
"Mom, I need to tell you something. I love you. I need a kiss, Mom. Mom, did you know Optimus Prime transforms into a truck. Mom, I love Optimus Prime. Mom, I don't have an Optimus Prime toy that transforms into a truck. Just a dino bot. Can you buy me an Optimus Prime? Mom. Please? Mom."

GO TO BED.

"Mom, you hurt my feelings because you yelled at me."
"Mom, I have to go potty"
"Mom, I'm going to sleep with my Dino Bots."
"Mom, I love you"

Every night. Then he's up a few times in the night. Then at 6:30 am he wakes up (on his own) and starting banging his drawers open and closed because heaven help us if he closes them softly.

It is really good he's cute and sweet.

Heffalump · January 2015

I swear, PMeg, if I didn't know better, I'd think DD and your DS were separated at birth. Thank god she starts art class this weekend, she needs an outlet for all her emotional angst. She can make a collage about me taking away her markers because I told her to clean them up three times and they were still all over the playroom. That hurt her feelings, naturally. (Not as much as those fuckers hurt the soles of my feet if I step on the caps wrong.)

GBCK · January 2015

I shouted a bit when Buffy told me I hurt her feelings recently.
Then she said my shouting hurt her ears.

I yelled "GOOD".
Some days I'm really bad at this mom gig.

mrsconn23 · January 2015

GBCK said:

Some days I'm really bad at this mom gig.

I feel that way a lot of days. Ah well, I guess that's why we have a savings account...for the therapy bills.

PMeg819 · January 2015

At this point, I'm immune to it. He just tells me he's sad and his feelings are hurt and I'm like okay dude. On the one hand, I'm glad he's in touch with his feelings and not afraid to share. Maybe he won't need therapy from my bad parenting. On the other hand, there is like nothing he can say that will hurt me at this point. The first few times, I felt bad but now I'm like whatever.

Heffalump · January 2015

GBCK said:

I shouted a bit when Buffy told me I hurt her feelings recently.
Then she said my shouting hurt her ears.

I yelled "GOOD".
Some days I'm really bad at this mom gig.

I don't remember the details, but over the holidays DD threw the "hurt my feelings" at DH and he shot back "Good, then maybe you'll listen next time." He definitely had a point...

DixieNormous330 · January 2015

I'm positive that PF has shouted "I hate you, Mommy" plenty of times. I just can't understand her.

*Barbie* · January 2015

Heffalump said:

GBCK said:

I shouted a bit when Buffy told me I hurt her feelings recently.
Then she said my shouting hurt her ears.

I yelled "GOOD".
Some days I'm really bad at this mom gig.

I don't remember the details, but over the holidays DD threw the "hurt my feelings" at DH and he shot back "Good, then maybe you'll listen next time." He definitely had a point...

DK and I had a similar conversation with Wolverine:

"Mommy scared me because she yelled"

"Well Mommy wouldn't have to yell if you listened the first time!"

"Yeah, Mommy told you to stop 3 times. That's 2 times too many."

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