First Dance/Family Dance at Reception

Re: First Dance/Family Dance at Reception

• flantastic member

  

  January 2015 edited January 2015

  nhultberg461 said:

  Ok so I want to have our normal first dance as husband and wife, but what is it say about a family dance. Meaning that he dances with my daughter and I dance with my son, sort of first family dance?

  And then being that his mom might not be able to make it, do I split the mother son dance between his two sisters?

  I'll still be able to do the father daughter dance with my dad too right?

  I see no reason for a spotlight dance (i.e. no other people on the floor) for a family dance - it's not a show, people's attention spans will be stretched thin, and nothing's stopping you from dancing together as a family later. The wedding itself is about you two as a couple.

  
  

  And there is no reason to substitute for his mother if she can't make it. Generally, if the mother or mother figure is not present, you just don't do it, and everyone understands.

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• nhultberg461 member

  

  January 2015

  So if I hurt his sisters feelings by not having the mother son dance because she can't make it..I guess that's where I'm at with it. 

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• flantastic member

  

  January 2015

  nhultberg461 said:

  So if I hurt his sisters feelings by not having the mother son dance because she can't make it..I guess that's where I'm at with it. 

  Why would they be hurt? It's not their dance, and if their mother's not there, she's not there. I can understand if they are sad that she can't make it, but you don't need to create a new dance to represent his side or prevent yourself from dancing with your father. They'll still be sad she can't make it and they shouldn't take offense to those traditions.

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• misshart00 member

  

  January 2015

  I think you need to stop talking to your FSIL about your wedding at all.

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• mlg78 member

  

  January 2015

  What does your FI want to do?  I think dancing with his sister(s) would be strange.  Just because you have a mother/father to dance with doesn't mean it needs to happen...  I have a stepdad but I didn't do a father/daughter dance but my husband danced with his mom.

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