Save the Dates: "And Guest?"

Re: Save the Dates: "And Guest?"

• thisismynickname2 member

  

  January 2015

  Are you having a large wedding where plus-ones may be plentiful?

  
  

  All I did was address the Save the Date to the single person, since it was so far out. By the time the wedding rolled around, I put "and guest" if they didn't have a significant other. 

  
  

  I get that you want to give them time, which is great, but since I had a smaller wedding I just verbally told these folks when I saw them next. "Oh, I'm glad you're excited for the wedding. Yup, bring someone!"

  
  

  For families with children, put the names on the outside of the envelope (Crane's is a good resource for proper wording.)  Mr and Mrs John Doe and Family, for example. There's a proper way to do it though. 

  
  

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• wrigleyville member

  

  January 2015

  thisismynickname said:

  Are you having a large wedding where plus-ones may be plentiful?

  
  

  All I did was address the Save the Date to the single person, since it was so far out. By the time the wedding rolled around, I put "and guest" if they didn't have a significant other. 

  
  

  I get that you want to give them time, which is great, but since I had a smaller wedding I just verbally told these folks when I saw them next. "Oh, I'm glad you're excited for the wedding. Yup, bring someone!"

  
  

  For families with children, put the names on the outside of the envelope (Crane's is a good resource for proper wording.)  Mr and Mrs John Doe and Family, for example. There's a proper way to do it though. 

  
  

  I'd be careful with this. Some people take "and Family" to mean "bring cousins or whatever".

  
  

  You address them as:

  
  

  Mr. John Doe & Mrs. Jane Doe

  Jennifer Doe, Sally Doe, and Michael Doe

  1234 Sesame Street

  Anytown, USA 55555

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• MegEn1 member

  

  January 2015

  What a great question! We're getting our first look at our STD designs next week and I've started thinking about stuff like this, the logistics of it all. I don't want to put Mr. Bob Barker and Ms. Mary Sue because I don't know if Bob will be dating Mary when the time comes, etc. etc. So I'm really psyched I'm not the only one with a lot of STD etiquette angst.
  
  Thanks for asking this.
  

  
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• [Deleted User] member

  

  January 2015

  MegEn1 said:

  What a great question! We're getting our first look at our STD designs next week and I've started thinking about stuff like this, the logistics of it all. I don't want to put Mr. Bob Barker and Ms. Mary Sue because I don't know if Bob will be dating Mary when the time comes, etc. etc. So I'm really psyched I'm not the only one with a lot of STD etiquette angst.
  
  Thanks for asking this.
  

  Yes, you go ahead and invite Ms. Mary Sue on Bob's invitation mailed to Bob's address.  Both Bob and Mary understand that if they break up between STDates and Invitations, Bob will still be invited with whoever he is dating then.  Unless you're friends with Mary independently of Bob, I doubt she'd be insulted at not receiving an invitation to the wedding of her ex-boyfriend's friends.

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