I was the MOH in my sister's wedding, and we just found out that her fiance has been cheating on her. She's kicked him out, and she (they?) are canceling the wedding. They had a destination wedding planned in Mexico for August of this year. There was an engagement BBQ earlier this year, and the STD's were sent a few months ago.
I have a couple of questions as I'm trying to help her deal with this. She's in shock, and I've been trying to help her facilitate him getting his things, separating their stuff, etc. She's heartbroken and very very upset, so I've stepped in to deal with canceling her wedding. I have two questions that I'm unsure of.
First, they received several small gifts for the engagement party. She sent thank you notes for everything, but most of them were bottles of champagne or wine that they drank after with friends to celebrate their engagement. I think there might have been a few wine glasses, but I don't know who gave them as a gift. Do we need to figure that out and try to return them or replace the bottles of booze? They've already been used or drank, but I know you're supposed to return gifts if a wedding doesn't take place.
Second, I need to contact everyone to let them know that the wedding won't take place. Would it be better to call or send cards? Is there proper etiquette for doing one or the other? He told me that he would contact his family and let them know, but I don't know if I trust him right now based on some of the things he's done or said after this happened. The travel agent knows not to take any more bookings and the forms are being signed and sent, but I want to make sure each person knows. I think he's afraid that she or I would tell his family why it's not happening, but I would never do that. I was planning to call or send cards that simply said the wedding has been canceled or won't take place.
What would you do?