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Is this a new thing?

maeday2maeday2 member
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I know people make shitty decisions on the reg, so there's that. Admittedly I'm new to wedding planning, but this just seems so weird/wrong to me. 

A high school acquaintance posted on FB about their "Bridal shower/Pampered Chef party." Say what? 

They screenshot the PC items they want in the FB event page. They also included that it's a great time for attendees to buy PC things because the B&G would get credit for them to buy more stuff off of their wish list. 

So on top of feeling pressure to buy shit you don't need so they get credit for more shit, you also have to specifically bring them a PC gift? 

I have never seen this before. Is this a new thing? 


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  • lurkergirllurkergirl member
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    Eeewwwww, that sounds TERRIBLE!  Sales parties are terrible and combining it with a shower is super, duper tacky!




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    lurkergirl said:
    Eeewwwww, that sounds TERRIBLE!  Sales parties are terrible and combining it with a shower is super, duper tacky!
    That was exactly my first thought! I hate those parties in general. 

    You have to bring a gift AND buy shit for yourself that they benefit from? NO.
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  • crackktheskyycrackktheskyy member
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    Ugh, gross.


    I intensely dislike most FB wedding related posts anyway. Don't get me wrong, I like hearing about when couples have become engaged or set the date, and I will stalk the shit out of your wedding photos, but it's really annoying to post all of the rest of the details.

    I have a friend that said to me, "Oh, aren't Kristy's save-the-dates nice?! I was so surprised she invited us." I replied, "She didn't, she was just advertising them on Facebook." It was suuuuuper awkward.
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    I would not call it a new thing, but I have heard of this before.   I think it's pretty darn tacky.    I would decline that sort of invite.

    On another note I don't get the PC appeal at all.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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  • alexandducky412alexandducky412 member
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    I don't know, but they shouldn't be.
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  • sophhabobophasophhabobopha member
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    Nooo. This is awful.
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  • maeday2maeday2 member
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    crackktheskyy said:
    Ugh, gross.


    I intensely dislike most FB wedding related posts anyway. Don't get me wrong, I like hearing about when couples have become engaged or set the date, and I will stalk the shit out of your wedding photos, but it's really annoying to post all of the rest of the details.

    I have a friend that said to me, "Oh, aren't Kristy's save-the-dates nice?! I was so surprised she invited us." I replied, "She didn't, she was just advertising them on Facebook." It was suuuuuper awkward.
    Agree. The B&G have both separately posted about the act of registering and then another post about "YAY our registry is done!" 

    Translation: We want presents and lots of them.
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    maeday2 said:
    crackktheskyy said:
    Ugh, gross.


    I intensely dislike most FB wedding related posts anyway. Don't get me wrong, I like hearing about when couples have become engaged or set the date, and I will stalk the shit out of your wedding photos, but it's really annoying to post all of the rest of the details.

    I have a friend that said to me, "Oh, aren't Kristy's save-the-dates nice?! I was so surprised she invited us." I replied, "She didn't, she was just advertising them on Facebook." It was suuuuuper awkward.
    Agree. The B&G have both separately posted about the act of registering and then another post about "YAY our registry is done!" 

    Translation: We want presents and lots of them.
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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    I was invited to a similar Pure Romance bachelorette party last year, which also came along with renting a house for the weekend for which I had not been consulted about the price and would not be getting a bed to sleep in. I declined.
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  • jenna8984jenna8984 member
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    I wonder if you're even expected to buy for yourself, or if you're given a list to buy specifically for the couple...? I would definitely not go. 

                                                                     

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    jenna8984 said:
    I wonder if you're even expected to buy for yourself, or if you're given a list to buy specifically for the couple...? I would definitely not go. 
    They make it clear that the screenshot items in the facebook event invite are things they want and it's just a picture of their PC wish list.

    They welcome you to buy for yourself because it benefits them, too. Bleh. 

    I'm about to make this worse for y'all. 

    This same bride posted their wedding website link the other day. I LOVE these in an unhealthy way so I clicked and creeped. They are doing an "open church ceremony." All are welcome. The reception tab just says, "Private Reception."

    This is also a new concept to me. There is no one that I'd want to watch my union occur that I wouldn't want to party down with after. 
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    maeday2 said:
    jenna8984 said:
    I wonder if you're even expected to buy for yourself, or if you're given a list to buy specifically for the couple...? I would definitely not go. 
    They make it clear that the screenshot items in the facebook event invite are things they want and it's just a picture of their PC wish list.

    They welcome you to buy for yourself because it benefits them, too. Bleh. 

    I'm about to make this worse for y'all. 

    This same bride posted their wedding website link the other day. I LOVE these in an unhealthy way so I clicked and creeped. They are doing an "open church ceremony." All are welcome. The reception tab just says, "Private Reception."

    This is also a new concept to me. There is no one that I'd want to watch my union occur that I wouldn't want to party down with after. 

    To be fair that could be a church policy. Some churches won't make the church private for wedding ceremonies.
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  • maeday2maeday2 member
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    @jdluvr06 I wish it were to be honest, but I also attend this church and have never heard of this.  

    These church ladies do LOVE hosting showers for everyone, so the "all are welcome" ideal makes sense. 

    I declined their offer just because it doesn't feel right to me to accept that and not be able to invite them to a wedding 700 miles away. 
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  • WinstonsGirlWinstonsGirl member
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    I've heard of this, but have never attended one.  Basically, whatever sales/extras the hostess would have received for hosting all goes to the Bride.  So if her guests buy a certain amount of stuff, she gets a certain amount of money to then spend on her order.  Actually, maybe I have attended one, thinking on it, but I never buy stuff at those parties so I'm of no ouse to them anyway.  I'm just there for the free food and booze.  ;)

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  • hellohkbhellohkb mod
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    Holy shit that sounds like my worst nightmare. I hate bridal showers and I hate selling parties. A combination is pure torture.


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    PC showers aren't new. I was invited to one before there was such a thing as facebook. The guests were given a list of items that the bride would like to receive as gifts. As the consultant went through her demo, she would mention how much the bride might enjoy this or that item, you know, just in case we couldn't read the list. While refreshments were being served, the sales person called us to her table so she could go over our gift order and make suggestions for additional purchases. It was very uncomfortable.


                       
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    MairePoppy said:

    PC showers aren't new. I was invited to one before there was such a thing as facebook. The guests were given a list of items that the bride would like to receive as gifts. As the consultant went through her demo, she would mention how much the bride might enjoy this or that item, you know, just in case we couldn't read the list. While refreshments were being served, the sales person called us to her table so she could go over our gift order and make suggestions for additional purchases. It was very uncomfortable.


    Nothing like shaming people into spending money.

    At least with a normally registry I can get someone on sale and/or use one of my 20% off coupons.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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  • ashley8918ashley8918 member
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    I was a bridesmaid for a bride who had a dildo party as her shower. Yup. You were expected to buy for yourself and then contribute"dildobux" (I AM NOT KIDDING) towards the bride's purchases.

    ETF contribute, not continue. Fuck you, Siri.
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    ashley8918 said:
    I was a bridesmaid for a bride who had a dildo party as her shower. Yup. You were expected to buy for yourself and then continue "dildobux" (I AM NOT KIDDING) towards the bride's purchases.
    Dildobux
    The fuck?
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  • beetherybeethery member
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    The one wedding expo I went to had tons of sales reps from PC, Lia Sophia, all of that crap there. Make a registry with us and host a party, do this! Do that!

    NOPE. NO THANK YOU. DON'T LIKE THIS, I AM UNCOMFORTABLE BYE.

    No more wedding shows. They are awful.
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    sophhabobopha said:
    ashley8918 said:
    I was a bridesmaid for a bride who had a dildo party as her shower. Yup. You were expected to buy for yourself and then continue "dildobux" (I AM NOT KIDDING) towards the bride's purchases.
    Dildobux
    The fuck?
    It was one of the most intensely uncomfortable experiences of my life. DILDOBUX.
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    lyndausvi said:
    I would not call it a new thing, but I have heard of this before.   I think it's pretty darn tacky.    I would decline that sort of invite.

    On another note I don't get the PC appeal at all.
    I am in no way a sales rep or anything for PC, but I do love their cooking dishes.  So I do get the appeal of some of their products, but I hate the bamboo craze they have been going through. 
    But to do this for a shower?  I told people that I like PC, but I sure didn't have a shower for only that.  Let people buy what their comfortable with - then you are more likely to get a gift that has some significance for them as well ex. an aunt giving a cookbook that she really likes. 

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  • sophhabobophasophhabobopha member
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    ashley8918 said: sophhabobopha said: ashley8918 said: I was a bridesmaid for a bride who had a dildo party as her shower. Yup. You were expected to buy for yourself and then continue "dildobux" (I AM NOT KIDDING) towards the bride's purchases. DildobuxThe fuck? It was one of the most intensely uncomfortable experiences of my life. DILDOBUX. FSMIL, who doesn't even like me, invited me to a dildo party with her daughters. Whyy.
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    sophhabobopha said:
    ashley8918 said:
    sophhabobopha said:
    ashley8918 said:
    I was a bridesmaid for a bride who had a dildo party as her shower. Yup. You were expected to buy for yourself and then continue "dildobux" (I AM NOT KIDDING) towards the bride's purchases.
    Dildobux
    The fuck?
    It was one of the most intensely uncomfortable experiences of my life. DILDOBUX.
    Box?


    FSMIL, who doesn't even like me, invited me to a dildo party with her daughters. Whyy.
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  • maeday2maeday2 member
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    I did not think this concept could be worse. Then I heard of dildobux.
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