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Is this a PPD?

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An acquaintance is having a destination wedding in Mexico for around 80 guests in a couple of months. She recently told me that she's getting married at her church here first with just her immediate family because she can't get legally married abroad. Is this true? I didn't think it made a ton of sense... if that's the case, aren't all international destination weddings just PPDs?

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Re: Is this a PPD?

  • bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    You can get married legally abroad there are just a lot of hoops to jump through. So basically your friend doesn't want to jump through all those hoops to get legally married in Mexico so she's having a PPD.

    But, no, not all destination weddings are PPDs.


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  • lurkergirllurkergirl member
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    Yes, it's a ppd. There are ways to be legally married internationally, and there are people here who have done it. There are just more hoops, I would imagine. That's really shitty to dupe everyone into a vacation for not-a-wedding.




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  • charcoalandblushcharcoalandblush member
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    Ok, glad it's not just me... I really didn't think that sounded right. Thanks!

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  • WinstonsGirlWinstonsGirl member
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    Yup, PPD.  TO get married legally in Mexico, there is a residency period (3-4 days I think) and blood tests required.  You often need documentation translated and notarized between English and Spanish as well.  

    I got married in Hawaii legally.  A good friend got married in Cuba, legally.  Her certificate is in Spanish and also on file at the Cuban consulate in Toronto.  Not all DW's are PPD's

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  • lovegood90lovegood90 member
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    Yes it's a PPD. It is possible to get legally married in Mexico. She just needs to do her research and not take the easy way out.

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  • Jessie42613Jessie42613 member
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    This is what I never understand about these types of situations.

    If it's SO SO IMPORTANT to get married/have a ceremony in Mexico (or wherever), and it's also SO SO IMPORTANT to have a church ceremony and huge reception, then why not just have your *real* wedding and reception here first... then go off on your Mexican honeymoon and bring the dress and do it all over again on the beach for shits and giggles?

    No one gets offended, you didn't put on a big fake show, and you get your super intimate ceremony on the beach.

    Done and done.
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  • charcoalandblushcharcoalandblush member
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    Jessie42613 said:
    This is what I never understand about these types of situations.

    If it's SO SO IMPORTANT to get married/have a ceremony in Mexico (or wherever), and it's also SO SO IMPORTANT to have a church ceremony and huge reception, then why not just have your *real* wedding and reception here first... then go off on your Mexican honeymoon and bring the dress and do it all over again on the beach for shits and giggles?

    No one gets offended, you didn't put on a big fake show, and you get your super intimate ceremony on the beach.

    Done and done.
    Not that this matters a ton, but my understanding is that the hometown ceremony will just be at the church with their parents and grandparents, and the Mexico ceremony and reception will be the big one that includes extended family and friends.

    But yeah. I highly suspected that this was actually a PPD in disguise (or not in disguise, actually). People have DWs all the time. Especially in Mexico. I figured it HAD to be "legal."

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  • IrishPirate60IrishPirate60 member
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    @WinstonsGirl‌, last I heard, Hawaii is not a foreign country!
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    IrishPirate60 said:
    @WinstonsGirl‌, last I heard, Hawaii is not a foreign country!
    it is if you are from Canada

    ETA - or not from the states as a lot of our users are not from the US.






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  • WinstonsGirlWinstonsGirl member
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    IrishPirate60 said:
    @WinstonsGirl‌, last I heard, Hawaii is not a foreign country!
    Yup, I'm up in Canada.  But even if you don't live there, and you are American, it's still a DW with legalities that may be different from your home state.  :)

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  • Jessie42613Jessie42613 member
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    charcoalandblush said:
    Jessie42613 said:
    This is what I never understand about these types of situations.

    If it's SO SO IMPORTANT to get married/have a ceremony in Mexico (or wherever), and it's also SO SO IMPORTANT to have a church ceremony and huge reception, then why not just have your *real* wedding and reception here first... then go off on your Mexican honeymoon and bring the dress and do it all over again on the beach for shits and giggles?

    No one gets offended, you didn't put on a big fake show, and you get your super intimate ceremony on the beach.

    Done and done.
    Not that this matters a ton, but my understanding is that the hometown ceremony will just be at the church with their parents and grandparents, and the Mexico ceremony and reception will be the big one that includes extended family and friends.

    But yeah. I highly suspected that this was actually a PPD in disguise (or not in disguise, actually). People have DWs all the time. Especially in Mexico. I figured it HAD to be "legal."
    Oh, yup, I def read the OP backwards.  My bad.  Carry on.
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