Had my first negative experience with a bridesmaid that got a little tense...
We were in a big group out to dinner to celebrate a mutual friend's birthday. During a lull in conversation, a bridesmaid of mine brings up some dress options she had found. When discussing I mention that I really like the styles, but was hoping to have a different color option: light blue, as this is what my FI and I decided we would like best. She immediately brings up the fact that the wedding party in my 1st wedding wore light blue skirts and wouldn't it really be a better idea to use completely different colors. I told her I appreciated the concern, but the choices of the first wedding had no bearing on the wedding I was currently planning with my to-be H.
The part where it got even more awkward was that I had never felt the need to mention to FI that light blue had been used in my first wedding, it didn't seem like an important detail. For our wedding, he suggested the color palette and I liked it, so we went with it.
It took several strong reminders that this wedding was not related to the last one, and that opinions were fine, but to please be considerate of FI and not bring up every detail of my first wedding to rehash during this one. Had a very heartfelt apology from her the next day good conversation about separating the 2 events in my life and I'm hoping no repeats of those events in the next 5 months!