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  • Jen4948Jen4948 Houston member
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    edited January 2015
    I'm afraid you're barking up the wrong tree by asking this forum's posters how to go about having a "wedding" when you're already married.

    What you want is called here and elsewhere a PPD which stands for "Pretty Princess Day" in which an already married couple pretends not to be married and stages a ceremony and "reception," complete with big white dress, attendants, and all the other trappings of a wedding. It's 1) not your "wedding" since you had that when you actually got married at the first ceremony and 2) considered the height of both rudeness and vulgarity. Nobody here is going to endorse your wish to do this, let alone tell you how to do it.

    You can remain polite by acknowledging your earlier ceremony as your "wedding" (which it was) and having a big party now called a "celebration" (note: it's not a "reception" because the term "reception" means receiving your guests as a married couple for the first time by way of thanking them for attending the ceremony that actually joined you as a married couple, which a "celebration" does not do). However, it is not appropriate or polite for a "celebration" to have a vow exchange, attendants, gift registries, spotlight dances, cake cuttings, or any other elements associated with a wedding. That ship sailed when you chose to get legally married, regardless of your reasons for doing so.
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  • If you wanted your dad to walk you down the aisle you should have invited him to Vegas.  But sadly, you didn't. So instead you want to have a day where you lie to your friends and family and pretend to get married.  That's not cool.

    Prepare for a lot of negativity from this site...because you already had your wedding whether you want to admit it or not.


    wrigleyville[Deleted User]
  • Oh, snap.


  • chibiyuichibiyui The Boring Part of MD member
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    Shame she DD d o quick. This could have been a lot of fun.

    But good on you for having some semblance of shame OP .
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  • If the OP looks at her original post, she will note that her name is mrsfeatherton. The mrs thing? Because you're married. 
    If you want to prance around in an elegant gown, plan a fabuloso anniversary party, or whatever.
    But no to lying to people and no to staged theatrical performances of weddings.

    VulgarGirlchibiyuiesstee33runsonveggies
  • BlueBirdMBBlueBirdMB member
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    edited January 2015
    MagicInk said:
    So I know she DD and will never come back, but I've got to say my rant. I'll give ya'll a puppy gif at the end.

    My mother and step-mother have been together for over 15 years now. 15 fucking years they have spent building a life together. And for those fucking 15 years, my mother has not been allowed to carry her partner, her wife, on her insurance. Because her work doesn't acknowledge domestic partners and until very recently our state didn't acknowledge gay people getting married. So my step-mom went without health insurance or paid out of pocket. 15 years. 

    But you, you little princesses, you want to get married to have health insurance and then hide the fucking fact that you're married so that you can march around in goddman dress and be belle of the fucking ball for a day? You want to belittle marriage that much? You're fucking married. You made a choice to get married for health insurance, and that choice has motherfucking consequences. Welcome to being an adult.

    Throw all the fucking yay we got married parties you want. Go for it. But don't fucking belittle marriage and the benefits that come with it so you can be a goddamn princess. There are people who still don't get those benefits and privileges, who don't care about being a fucking princess for day, they just want to be fucking married already. Don't belittle marriage when there are people who are desperate for it.

    Now here is a puppy:
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    This was the best fucking thing I have ever read.  And I never drop the f bomb, but I needed to for that.

    VulgarGirl[Deleted User]sal2015
  • wrigleyvillewrigleyville Chicago member
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    MagicInk said:
    So I know she DD and will never come back, but I've got to say my rant. I'll give ya'll a puppy gif at the end.

    My mother and step-mother have been together for over 15 years now. 15 fucking years they have spent building a life together. And for those fucking 15 years, my mother has not been allowed to carry her partner, her wife, on her insurance. Because her work doesn't acknowledge domestic partners and until very recently our state didn't acknowledge gay people getting married. So my step-mom went without health insurance or paid out of pocket. 15 years. 

    But you, you little princesses, you want to get married to have health insurance and then hide the fucking fact that you're married so that you can march around in goddman dress and be belle of the fucking ball for a day? You want to belittle marriage that much? You're fucking married. You made a choice to get married for health insurance, and that choice has motherfucking consequences. Welcome to being an adult.

    Throw all the fucking yay we got married parties you want. Go for it. But don't fucking belittle marriage and the benefits that come with it so you can be a goddamn princess. There are people who still don't get those benefits and privileges, who don't care about being a fucking princess for day, they just want to be fucking married already. Don't belittle marriage when there are people who are desperate for it.

    Now here is a puppy:
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    VulgarGirlslothiegalchibiyui
  • VulgarGirlVulgarGirl Desert Oasis member
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    Um so I fucked up. My mom and step mom have been together 11 years. Dad and step mom have been together 15 years. In my defense I have four parents and it gets hard. My point still stands.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake Beyond the Wall member
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    OP, I hope MagicInk's story gives you (and anyone else who comes along thinking of doing this) some perspective.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • @Magicink, have your mom and stepmom gotten legally married now that they can in your state?  I'm just wondering out of pure curiosity. 
  • VulgarGirlVulgarGirl Desert Oasis member
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    kaos16 said:
    @Magicink, have your mom and stepmom gotten legally married now that they can in your state?  I'm just wondering out of pure curiosity. 
    They were legally married in California last summer....not long after DOMA and prop 8 were taken care of. So now our state recognizes their legal marriage, so they don't have to get remarried (same with Wifey's dads, they were legalized in DC, now it's just recognized in our state). They are planning a tiny party on their anniversary to celebrate it's legal in our state now, I believe it'll basically be us, them, and maybe their super close friends for dinner and then cake. 
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  • @mrsfeathertonn, if you are still checking - you should send out formal marriage announcements immediately to all your friends and family.

    Bride's Full Name
    and 
    Groom's Full Name
    announce their marriage
    Date
    Las Vegas, Nevada

    That's it.  No details.  Now that every one knows you are married, you can have a great party to celebrate your marriage, but NO wedding gown, NO Dad walking you down the aisle, NO ceremony of any kind!  You can have open bar, dinner, dancing, toasts "To the newlyweds", but you will not be a bride.  You are a married woman, and there is no going back.
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    runsonveggies
  • @mrsfeathertonn, if you are still checking - you should send out formal marriage announcements immediately to all your friends and family.

    Bride's Full Name
    and 
    Groom's Full Name
    announce their marriage
    Date
    Las Vegas, Nevada

    That's it.  No details.  Now that every one knows you are married, you can have a great party to celebrate your marriage, but NO wedding gown, NO Dad walking you down the aisle, NO ceremony of any kind!  You can have open bar, dinner, dancing, toasts "To the newlyweds", but you will not be a bride.  You are a married woman, and there is no going back.
    httpiimgurcomTCCjW0wjpg
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