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Uncle's Birthday

SmackolomonSmackolomon member
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It's my Uncle's Birthday the day of my wedding.  He's not upset or offended that we chose that day to get married. That's just the way it happened to work out.
I would like to do something to acknowledge his big day but I'm not sure what to do.  We're not having a traditional tiered cake so I thought a big birthday cake might work but I don't want to be tacky.  Any suggestions?
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  • antotoantoto member
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    Just curious, why exactly do you want to acknowledge it?  Are birthdays a super huge deal in your family?  Maybe putting a birthday card at his plate might be enough.  It lets him know you thought of him and doesn't confuse your guests or put your uncle in unwanted spotlight.
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  • penguin44penguin44 member
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    I agree with PP. Personally, that would embarrass me. I don't like to be in the spotlight. A card or special dessert at his place setting might be nice. 
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    This varies for person to but I do not see a problem with a small cake or even a cupcake and a quick happy birthday.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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  • LulawifeLulawife member
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    My cousin and also one of our groomsmen will be celebrating their birthdays on the day of our wedding. We are having a dessert table rather than a cake so I plan to have a special plated dessert for each of them that FI and I can bring to them at some point during the evening and wish them a happy birthday. We are having over 300 guests and I didn't want to embarrass either of them by singling them out in front of a large crowd of people they may not know but in my family, every birthday is celebrated and so I wanted to at least acknowledge their special day. :)
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    My cousin got married in May of 2002.  All three living grandmothers had birthdays in May.  They bought little cakes for each of the grandmothers and mentioned the coincidence to everyone.  Done.

    My other cousin got married on his one niece's 6th birthday and his other niece's 1st birthday.  They had personalized birthday cakes for each of the girls and sang to them after they cut their official wedding cake.  Done.
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  • Cookie PusherCookie Pusher member
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    Several people had birthdays the weekend of our wedding (and the "birthday' of our country, I guess?). The DJ played "Birthday" by the Beatles and simply wished everyone who was celebrating that weekend a happy birthday. Then I proceeded to do shots with the birthday folks. I think doing something small and not overly AWish would be fine.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    edited January 2015
    Well, my grandmother married her second husband the day before my parents' anniversary, which was acknowledged at the reception.

    As long as your uncle is okay with the acknowledgement, I think a small, quick "happy birthday" with a cupcake and candle, that would be okay-but not a big cake.
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  • crys-cryscrys-crys member
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    My step-grandma's birthday was on my wedding day (or really my wedding day was on her birthday) so we had everyone sing her happy birthday. She loved it.
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  • lovesclimbinglovesclimbing member
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    I don't think there needs to be a big acknowledgement.  Maybe mention it in a toast?

    My cousin's birthday was our wedding day. Although I'm close with him, we don't celebrate birthdays together, so I didn't even remember it was his birthday until we sent invitations. We didn't acknowledge his birthday at our wedding because it was an afternoon cake-and-punch wedding, so there weren't toasts or anything like that. Granted, he also didn't come to our wedding, not because it was his birthday but because he didn't request time off soon enough from his boss.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I think it's weird and completely unnecessary to make a thing of this. Your uncle's big day? Really?
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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