Bride Drama.. I need your advice

Re: Bride Drama.. I need your advice

• jenna8984 member

  

  January 2015

   

  kristy1801 said:

  My neighbors and I share something similar to a lifestyle of "desperate housewives".

  We run door to door with wine in hand and share juicy gossip with each other and its awesome! I had to mention this for you to understand the situation I'm in.

  
  

  One of the girls in the building is a little jealous and gets upset over a lot of things. I have dodged every bullet, but she gets upset if she isn't invited to every function (even though she declines every invite we give her!) She is passive for no reason, and its all really just odd..

  
  

  ANYWAY- She got married last year in her home state.. Her videographer was A M A Z I N G. So amazing, that I had to book him myself and am flying him out to Denver for my wedding.

  
  

  Sheeee doesn't know this yet.. I am too scared to mention it to her in fear she will be really pissed about it. Because thats is just the way we assume she would take it.

  
  

  Although we don't speak a whole lot anymore, I did invite her. Almost only because of this videographer stuff. Oh and also because she lives in my building and there is no getting away from this situation. 

  
  

  How should I bring it up? Should I even bring it up?

  I'm not understanding why she or anyone would be mad about that. Unless she's a bitch who thinks no one's video should be as great as hers....in which case ditch her immediately.
  

                                                                   

  
  

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• fwtx5815 member

  

  January 2015

  I don't see why this is something you have to mention at all. If she were to attend the wedding and recognize the videographer, she may not feel any type of way about it. If she does have negative thoughts about it and doesn't say anything, it isn't your problem. And if she does say something, I would seriously ask her why it's an issue and let her know it was not something you saw as being so important to warrant a conversation about it.
  She sounds like a peach.

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• badbnagdway member

  

  January 2015

  There is no such thing as calling dibs on a vendor. It's not fair or ok to not want someone you know to use your wedding vendors. That's even more so when your wedding is over.  That doesn't really make any sense. If this girl is in your friend circle, and you don't want to rock the boat, what I would do is say, casually in conversation, or when asked about wedding planning, "Oh, yeah, Desperate Housewife, we loved your wedding video so much, we booked your videographer too!" In other words, phrase it as a compliment. 

  
  

  We aren't using a videographer, but I know for me, if a friend wanted to hire my photographer after seeing pictures of my wedding, I would feel flattered more than anything, like, wow, I have good taste in photographers and my wedding must have looked pretty awesome. If you like your vendors, you should really want them to get work, not dissuade people from using them. 

  
  

  What makes you think this girl would not want you to use this person anyway? 

  
  

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• climbingsingle member

  

  January 2015

  I feel like you're creating drama where there is none.

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• AddieCake member

  

  January 2015

  This is a non issue. There is no need to tell her or anyone else who any of your vendors are.

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• mikenberger member

  

  January 2015

  Do you live in a college dorm or other place where immature people may live? Because it sounds like a bunch of immaturity abounds where you reside.

  
  

  
  

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• southernbelle0915 mod

  

  January 2015

  How old are y'all? Jesus.
  
  Who cares that you're using the same videographer? If you're worried about it and she's pissed about it, y'all need to find some jobs or a damn hobby.

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• moorewedding530 member

  

  January 2015

  Don't bring it up. This shouldn't even be a situation. She should be flattered you were so impressed with her wedding pictures.

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• WhatawagSBNy member

  

  January 2015 edited January 2015

  This should be viewed as a flattering commentary on her or anyone else's photos or video. One should be flattered that others recognize their excellent choice of people and services, and say We loved our pics and hope he does great work for you. Anything else is silly and childish.
  
  If she or anyone brings it up, complement your friends' video as well. as her finding someone so great. Possessiveness of business people's services is not on.

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• kritter4789 member

  

  January 2015

  I say its not worth mentioning...Wedding vendors work so many weddings, they aren't exclusive to just one bride! You like the vendors' work, so you hired them. End of story.

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• Butterflyz419 member

  

  January 2015

  This is hysterical to me, and can't believe this would be an issue.

  
  

  I have a friend getting married less than 2 weeks after me and we are BMs for each other. We are "sharing" a bunch of vendors--photographer, hair/makeup, and transportation. Heck we're even using the same brand for our BM dresses (although with different colors). The only reason we're having different videographers is that mine wasn't available for her date. We almost had the same DJ too, but she was worried, despite my insistence that I didn't care, that since he's a little unique (plays live music during cocktail hour/dinner, then switches to be a traditional DJ for the dance part) that our weddings would be too similar if we had the same entertainment and we have a portion of our guest list that will overlap, *shrug*. 

  
  

  If she would actually be upset about this, she's crazy.

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