Father/Daughter Dance?

Re: Father/Daughter Dance?

• holyguacamole79 member

  

  August 2014

  LLevin11 said:

  My father passed away when I was 16, but I'd still like to do a special dance after my first dance with my husband. I've thought of three options for the night:

  
  

  1. Have a mother/daughter dance instead

  
  

  2. Make an announcement about how my father has passed away, but how my mom's long-term boyfriend has become a father figure in my life and then dance with him.

  
  

  3. Make an announcement about how my father has passed away, and then dance with all of the other special men in my life (for about 30 seconds each) - brother, uncle, mom's boyfriend, new father-in-law, etc.

  
  

  Looking for opinions on which of these options would be the best way to still honor the tradition of the father/daughter dance as well as honor the other special people in my life. I don't want anyone from my family to think I'm trying to replace my father.

  
  I would avoid any announcements about your father's passing. Chances are, your guests know. There is no real need to draw attention to it. Otherwise, any one of those three would be nice. You could also skip the dance altogether if you want.

  
  
  
  
  

  

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• chibiyui member

  

  August 2014

  Honestly, if you mean for this to honor your father, I'd skip it. I'd honor his memory by carrying something of his instead. ( Trying his wedding band to your bouquet, sewing fabric from one of his shirts into your dress or using it to wrap his bouquet, etc)

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• CMGragain member

  

  August 2014 edited August 2014

  I dislike any memorials to deceased family members at weddings.  It is not the time or place to do this. You invited your guests to celebrate with you, not to mourn.   Memorials to your Dad should be private, as in carrying a small item with you that belonged to him. 
  I had my grandmother place a flower from my bouquet on my father's grave after the wedding, privately.
  
  Skip the father-daughter dance.  It isn't required.
  

  

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• MissKittyDanger member

  

  January 2015

  I would avoid announcements. As someone who is trying to figure out another option since mine passed recently, one thing I am doing is using a piece of an old shirt of his and sewing into my dress.

  He will be my "something blue".

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• DaniBites member

  

  January 2015

  My dad passed away months ago, I'm skipping the dance and having his necklaces wrapped into my boquet.  Also putting a memorial candle at the altar (which won't look like an obvious memorial candle to our guests but I'll know what it is)

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• runningtomywedding member

  

  January 2015

  I think all of your options are nice. I disagree with those saying don't make an announcement. If that's what you feel is the right thing to do and will make you happy, then do it. My dad passed away recently and I've been struggling with the same issue. I will be walking down the aisle to his favorite song and skipping the whole dance thing. I am not going to make an announcement, but I do feel like it is important to me to publicly acknowledge him in some way. You need to do what you feel is right.

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