So I am planning our 10 year high school reunion with 3 other girls from my class. We are struggling to gain interest (after people freaking out that we didn't have a 5 year). All 4 of us work full time, own homes, are married and 3 are moms. We are busy with our own lives, but are taking time to plan this for our class. So it has already been a frustrating process.
A few months ago one of our classmates died. I didn't really know her, but she was overall pretty well known. She had 2 kids, it was very sad.
Fast forward to now, and our class president tells us this girl's mom is trying to get in touch with her about the reunion. We assume she will want us to honor her in some way at it. Which we are of course open to, but our concerns are A. we need to get the interest up first, without more tickets sold there no reunion. and B. we know there is at least 1 other kid in our graduating class that died so now should we honor him too... and are there others that we need to confirm?!
Well class prez just messaged me and said the mom wants to come to the reunion with her late daughter's kids. First off there are no kids at this event, more then half of our class has kids and this is an evening cocktail party so we stated no kids on the website (I know that is rude but we had to spell it out..). And isn't it strange for someone's parent to come? I feel like a cold-hearted bitch even typing this out. But no one else's parents are going to be there. They had a memorial for her when she died and people from our HS went. This is about our reunion and I feel like she is trying to turn it into something about her daughter.
Am I an awful person for saying all this?
So thoughts on if I am going about this the wrong way? Thoughts on how to honor her? Thoughts on if we should even open that up to everyone that we have lost in our class? Thoughts on telling her not to come?